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STICKING UP FOR YOURSELF

I used to be very conflict avoidant as a young pup but as an old dog, I’ve embraced the conflict that arises when you need to let a mf know who you are! Part of being boundaried is enforcing those boundaries if they’ve been crossed and that means sticking up for yourself. You gotta let people know when they ought to do better by you, or politely let them know when they got you fucked up, because only then can you re-establish the terms of engagement so you are respected, treated with the kindness and consideration you deserve. If the person is mature enough to be accountable, then they will respond in a reasonable manner to your reasonable request. If the person crashes out, then they are an unreasonable human who doesn’t deserve to have your time or space! You deserve the world — show yourself that by picking you first!!!

@thevolumesetter

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stop weaponizing therapy talk to excuse yourself from responsibilities

Everyone deserves to acknowledge the things that hurt them and the fact that past traumas can make you anxious/make it more difficult to perform tasks that may seem easy for others. That however, does not mean you should go ahead and use those events as ammunition to excuse yourself from being a kind, respectful human being.
For instance, let's say you have roommates and they've kindly let you know several times that you need to clean up after yourself as the apartment is getting messy and it's a shared space. Despite them asking nicely, you accuse them of triggering you because being told to clean reminds you of the toxic relationship you had with your parents at home. All of a sudden they are now actively attacking your mental health and they have to either clean up after you since you refuse to do so or continue leaving the apartment a mess until you potentially change your mind. (I know this this might seem like an extreme example, but I've witnessed something very similar irl and there's far too many tiktoks of people mentioning similar experiences for me to think this is a singular experience.)
Now look, it is important to inform others of our limitations so that there's less friction as we navigate different environments and work on ourselves, but weaponizing the terminology we learn in therapy or online to victimize yourself and blame others for shrugging off your own responsibilities is far from healing. We share this planet with a bunch of other people, we are not isolated ecosystems. And as much as we can ask others to accommodate us, we must also do some internal work ourselves to meet them halfway.
We all are fighting our own personal demons and merit the space to address them, but there is a massive difference between understanding our issues to heal and grow from them versus using them to excuse destructive actions and accuse others of triggering us for suggesting alternatives/challenging our perspectives.

@verygoodvalentina

Nov 27, 2024

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protecting your peace

‘i don’t know’ a lot of the time, it’s probably my most used phrase.
i’m often (ALWAYS) tired, and i spend heaps of time thinking. thinking about how other people feel, and how they feel about me. it’s human nature, i suppose.
but it feels so bad sometimes.
but i deserve, and you, slay, (yes, you too,) deserve BETTER.
you only have control over yourself and what you do, and you have to always keep that in the front of your mind.
think for yourself, and look out for YOU.
no one else is gonna put things right for you, only you can do that for yourself.
stay well and strong, slays. you deserve the world and some more 💕

@coolismi

Oct 30, 2024

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WATER LILY COVERED LAKES

LET ME IN!!!!

@mossyelfie

May 31, 2025

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Embracing The Fool Archetype

In Tarot, The Fool is the first card in the Major Arcana, which represents the life cycle. These cycles we are continuously going through in our lives, not just once. The final card of the Major Arcana is The World (which I have tattooed very large on my thigh), which signifies the completion of a cycle and natural ascension into the next. We are then thrust back into the Fool, with a bit more wisdom. The Fool as an archetype is one of joy, curiosity, spontaneity, and trust.  The Fool is pure of heart, knowing that the Universe has got their back.  This innate trust allows The Fool to be playful, to take risks, and truly believe everything will work out.  The more we go through life and experience loss, grief, heartache, trauma, the harder it becomes to embrace this energy.  I’ve found that as healing goes on, just as it’s shown in tarot, we return to this natural state of being. We start off as The Fool when we are wee little babies, and if we are lucky can return there a few cycles at a time, with more wisdom gained each time.   The goal of The Fool is to have positive experiences, maybe for fun, maybe to grow. There is an acceptance with The Fool, a kind of “this is what is, how can I make this work well for me?” Everything works out for The Fool because they don’t know it can’t. Anything we go through in life, we can use to grow.  I personally believe we all could benefit embracing the archetypal energy of The Fool a bit more.  The Fool doesn’t stop to worry what other people will think!  The Fool does not fret about what if’s!  The Fool is in the moment!

@mossyelfie

Jun 1, 2025

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DANCING YOURSELF CLEAN

Humans have always danced. It is part of who we are, yet we have been conditioned to be self conscious, to think that we do not move our bodies good enough. Dancing is beyond judgement. Dancing is not a skill, it is our soul moving through our bodies, expressed in movement. Dancing is healing. Dancing is bodily autonomy. Dancing is FUN! Any feeling you are feeling can be moved through with dance yet even alone, you fear looking foolish. Kill the judge in your mind, shut the fuck up, and MOVE 🌊

@mossyelfie

Apr 24, 2025