keep yourself busy/treat yourself
be around friends and family
NO CONTACT (i know it’s hard but sadly necessary)
make a list of all the things they did that were annoying so that you don’t romanticize the relationship
no contacts so hard when hes a good friend 💔 nothing i do is equivalent to what it was like to be with him and its so annoyong like damn let me be happy without missing you!!!! i think i miss the memories and im just very nostalgic ugh.. but thank u!! trying my best here
If yr freshly-minted ex is a total buster, block TF out of them, delete your message history (if yr prone to look back at yr old texts), and put all the things that remind u of them into a box under yr bed. Spend a month moping, reconnecting with all the people you love, and live in grief. Then start dating yourself -- go on walks, hit the club, have a lovely homemade dinner, get a new vibrator, watch the sunset, read a book in the park. Make promises to yourself that you don't break, those are the most important
maybe more depending on the nature of the break up and their transgressions. then try to act normal. find out what you liked about them and develop those qualities in yourself
maybe they’re a partner, maybe they’re a friend, maybe they’re a family member. regardless of the type of relationship, you know that this person isn’t good for you. it doesn’t even have to be because they’re abusive — maybe there’s just something about this connection that brings you stress. maybe your body is trying to tell you. why does your stomach hurt before and after you see them? you know you need to let this person go, but there’s a part of you who doesn’t want to. you’ve gotten used to them being in your life, and you can’t imagine a life without them. you want to only remember the good moments. you want to believe that things will be *all good* again. but were they ever *all good*? this person is never going to be the idealized version you’ve created in your head. ending the connection will hurt, but you’re already hurting yourself by staying in it.