Tommy Dorfman
Aug 7, 2023 BY
@tommy-dorfman🎥
If you’re from brooklyn or new york city or just moved here, i know, this is cliche. But i! Don’t! Care! The truffle popcorn is addicting, even if I'm farting for the rest of the movie, it’s worth it. Plus they have cute little trailers to gab about with your date or friend, but i also go alone because nobody tried to have small talk with you at the movies and you can just disassociate peacefully in blissful high-power air conditioning on a hot nyc summer day. They have guest curators on a monthly basis and do fun screenings of old flicks. Highly recommend it. Nitehawk > Alamo.
Aug 7, 2023
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Erin is at the forefront of trans journalism and focuses her daily newsletter on issues that every other major/minor news outlet is significantly underreporting on or ignoring altogether. Reed’s independent reporting is succinct in ways i personally appreciate because, while it is necessary to stay informed on current policies shifts as it affects my livelihood, I also can’t ruminate in it without giving way to a manically typing “HOW TO LEAVE AMERICA” into my browser while I scarf down a Nerds Rope wishing things could be different. So, for that, I’m fucking grateful she keeps it simple and accessible. Subscribe, share, subscribe, share. Her work is imperative to trans safety and liberation.
Aug 7, 2023
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It’s actually terrifying at first, but even around the block it’s clarifying and helps me reset. I’ll literally walk out of my office and walk around the block phoneless and count pigeons to get back in my body and press restart.
Aug 7, 2023
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Did you know CO STAR is AI generated and designed to abuse its subscribers with fear tactics, using astrological scare tactics to create buzz? And The Pattern is also AI bullshit. If you actually want real astrological readings from an app, inclusive of meditation practices and journal prompts, tailored to you, with an audio format read by the astrologer herself, CHANI, then get this app. There are also hundreds (dozens?!) of meditations and affirmations recorded. I fall asleep to her voice every single night. Also +++ she’s queer and cool and this is her life’s work. Worth every penny.
Aug 7, 2023
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A delicious, page turning Summer read and debut from novelist Nicola Dinan. It unpacks so many complicated nuances of being queer and in your twenties. Romantic, sexy, vulnerable. First romance centring a transfemme I’ve read and loved published on a larger scale.
Aug 7, 2023
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I recently fucked my back up. It was sudden, unexpected, painful, and now I’m stuck with it. Mending it on an infinity loop of physical therapy, cortisone shots, heating pads, and now: Reformer Pilates. It’s reshaping my body and is one of the few exercises I can do at length without cursing my back out for giving up on me at 30. I can’t do mat, personal thing really, but highly recommend everybody get on a reformer at least once. It’s a strange sensation at first, working out laying down, but once you get into the rhythm of the movements and ride the breathwork wave, reformer pilates is powerfully healing (and strengthening). Also it’s kind of a lazy girl's hard workout.
Aug 7, 2023
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Cry hard, cry loud, cry in private, in public, cry when you need to cry. I spent decades of my life suppressing all my emotions and pretending to not have feelings at all! Unless something life altering and catastrophic happened, like a death, major fight/breakup, or nightmare panic attack, I just shut down. But in my late twenties and now early thirties I’ve opened up the floodgates and cry cathartically multiple times a week. Typing this out does sound like I’m unstable, and maybe I am, but crying is proven to help you self-soothe, recover from grief, detoxify, dull pain, and improve mood by releasing stress hormones. Crying and laughing and laughing until you cry and crying until you laugh. So if you feel a cry coming, don’t suppress it!!!
Aug 7, 2023
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It’s giving niche, curated, it-girl vintage. It’s giving shoes that I can't fit into, caviar dishes shaped like seashells I'd never use, lighting I would trade my dog for, and drool worthy bags. It’s a collection of perfect things and peak aspirational instagram without being too gauche. She also specializes in sourcing for clients
Aug 7, 2023
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I travel a lot and as a chronic ADHD overpacker whose instincts are to pack half my closet, I’ve made it a practice in the last year or so to not check a bag for trips shorter than a week. I think Tik Tok made me do it??? That said, the bag is essential, and *luxury* carry-on options are overrated and not practical. This weekender changed my life and has helped me to evolve into a meticulously organized packer. I leave the bottom empty if possible to pack anything I get while traveling; I put my toiletries, electronics, and purse inside the main pocket, and it balances perfectly on any roller. I think I get a week of my life back a year by not checking luggage and waiting for it.
Aug 7, 2023
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So remember when everybody got puppies and kittens and whatever the fuck else during covid? Right, that happened, and it was great! Shelters were empty, homes were full of love. Then the world opened up and a lot of those folx went back to their jobs and decided that, while it was a cute instagrammable and tik tok moment for them, ultimately being a pet owner was so 2020 and just no longer their brand. So now, those animals are back in shelters, and shelters are full to the brim, you get it. Obviously don’t get an animal without thinking about the big picture of your life, it’s not for everybody nor is everybody in a place where they can take care for a furry friend. BUT if you can, do. It changed my life being a dog mom. Gives me purpose and a great excuse to leave parties and get out of bed in the morning.
Aug 7, 2023