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Having an online audience of any kind or a patreon is a huge responsibility, but I highly recommend making your way towards the goal of eventually having or making children. Iâm a dada to a 2.5 year old little boy, named Dashiell (Dash) - with our little girl Meadow set to arrive in August. This is by far the hardest group project Iâve ever been a part of - I wonât mention the endless list of things we all see when millennials talk about how tired they are, or how their boobs hurt (mine donât, but if you have boobs they will hurt bad) - but when he takes my hand and pulls me in the direction he wants to go, or makes fun of something stupid I did in front of him (he has a way of saying âohhh, daaaaddaaaâ which just levels me ) - I swear Iâve never felt a bigger or more true love in my entire life. Everything fades, everything dies, except the love of a child. Unless you really fuck with them, be good to your kids and love them a lot. I swear thereâs nothing better than this, absolutely nothing. Thereâs nothing better than love, I swear.
Mar 17, 2022
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having to raise a person from the ground up to be a kind, well behaved, intelligent and emotionally stable person sounds like the hardest thing ever, actually.
But at the same time I want children and to be a mom sounds like the greatest thing ever too.
Alexa play I think about it all the time by charli xcx
Apr 10, 2025
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Iâm not a parent and do not plan to be. Kids can wear me out fast with their high energy and noise level; it leaves me very over-stimulated. But itâs pretty extreme when people say they âhate kidsâ and I often feel itâs a reflection of their childhood and beliefs around how kids âshould be.â That they were expected to be quiet, obedient, and out of the way by their parents when they were little.
Itâs fucking hard to be a kid. Youâre dealing with a rapidly-changing body and underdeveloped brain, managed by flawed adults who are enforcing boundaries that you do not understand. Itâs confusing and hard to manage your feelings and honestly just a lot.
People are impatient with kids when theyâre brand new to the world and figuring it all out, and this is a time kids need a friend the most. Children can also be teachers to adults with how they are less habituated to the world. They teach us how to be free and open-hearted and silly and imaginative.
A good practice is to be kinder and gentler with kids. If that feels difficult, start with gentleness toward your inner child. Maybe thatâs the child in your life that needs your attention and kindness most.
Apr 16, 2025
10/10 experience if youâve got the right partner. Itâs like having a little dummy thatâs 50% you and 50% your partner.
Nothing like being the ONLY DAD THAT IS OUT & ABOUT BECAUSE I AM A STAY-AT-HOME PARENT FIGHTING OFF TRADITIONAL GENDER ROLES.
Apr 16, 2024
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I canât say enough about a good loft. Ideally this is a large under-furnished-little-bit-industrial-a-little-bit-abandoned room for your unfettered thoughts and creativity to bounce around freely. I recently found one in downtown Los Angeles, and itâs changed everything for me.. As someone who has always worked from home, I typically turned my home into a work space. This made any sort of healthy relationship with another person impossible - either Iâd give in to their demands and stop making art or functioning, or I would break up with them. Iâm very happy with my love/work balance now. I get that lofts are expensive, and with gas prices what they are - all Iâm saying is, if you find a loft, and you treat it well, youâll never need to get gas again.
Mar 17, 2022
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The NoPost (i.e NoFap) is the simple exercise of not posting anything online on purpose. I find when I ignore the impulse to post, more than 5 or 6 times in a row, a great clarity hits me. Ideas feel new and beautiful again, my desires sink back into healthier corners, Iâm focused. Itâs great! I highly recommend trying this for a week, and see what happens. One of the rules though, is you canât post that youâre doing it, as that breaks the NoPost core value. NoFap is good too but much more difficult to pull off.
Mar 17, 2022
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One of my favorite playwrights of all time (just behind my dear friend Polly Stenham, who first introduced me to her work) - her book of complete plays (Blasted, Phaedraâs Love, Cleansed, Crave, 4.48 Psychosis, and Skin) is everything I love about music, films, really anything. Thereâs something about reading plays that allows my brain to process and experience the work differently - itâs a crazy thrill to read her,, especially Blasted. Itâs intense to the bone stuff. She also made a short film for Skin in 1997 just before hanging herself in 1999.
Mar 17, 2022