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you're not too much nor not enough.

Besides the basics of being well mannered and respectful to everyone, keep in mind you are not too much nor not enough. NOT ENOUGH : requesting your alone time is not bad demanding respect is not bad refusing to be touched by someone who is not close to you is not bad not sharing your weekend with your coworkers is not bad refusing to give your socials to new people is not bad dressing casual because it feels comfortable is not bad TOO MUCH : asking for an explanation and clear reasons to something/situation is not bad asking your people to remember your birthday is not bad not giving your things (because you are a holder) is not bad being always organized is not bad demanding people to respect the schedule (to not come late) is not bad Sooner or later you will meet people who have the same values as you and you might even find those who will deeply love you for these traits so don't feel bad and embrace your "flaws".

@la9atate

Jan 12, 2025

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feel weird or awkward? hard lean into it

do it for the bit! worst case scenario? they don‘t like you (thats ok!). maybe you didnt gain anything but you certainly havent lost anything either... actually id still argue that you *have* gained something by allowing yourself the self compassion to be imperfect (heh heh). best case scenario? you‘re with good company and as time goes on with said good company, you realize what you perceive to be flaws are really not flaws at all, but a part of the wonderful weave of traits and quirks that makes up you (and everyone else too!) just maybe with a little less confidence. rest assured, the confidence can be worked on. but attracting the life you want with people who inspire you and fill your heart with the warmth of 1000 suns starts with you being your most beautiful & authentic self! warts and all! weirdos n freaks rise up!

@suki

Jan 29, 2024

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it’s how you carry yourself, not how you look

I realized a few years ago that my desire and attempts to look a certain way were failing. It wasn’t realistic, and it was making me feel inauthentic, empty, and unhappy. Cameras capture every thing, so it’s easy to dwell on imperfections. But that’s not how people experience you. It’s not how others think about you or see you. Imagine how critical you are of yourself and imagine someone else being that critical of another person. You’d think there’s something wrong with them! Who focuses on a person’s looks that much! Get a life you misery! That’s how we treat ourselves. There’s an epidemic happening where everyone wants and is going out and getting the same face. The same body. It’s so boring. Your “flaws”—as society has taught you to think about them—are not flaws. They make you unique. Memorable. They make you beautiful. To love yourself is active resistance in an economy fueled by obsession over flaws and unhappiness. One of the actors in White Lotus, Aimee Lou Woods has some objectively flawed teeth. But that’s what makes her so unique, so special. So cute! They make her attractive because she’s unapologetic about them. Embracing my big goofy smile and big ears and crinkled crows feet makes me feel comfortable in my own skin. That feeling is so powerful. It spreads to other parts of your life and attracts people to you. It’s how you carry yourself, how you move in the world, engage with other people— not how you look.

@Shadowbeni

Mar 29, 2025

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Dinosaur vocalization studies

This is just one video but there are so many on this channel you can just play the whole playlist instead of listening to music. I love it so so much, my favorites are dilophosaurus at 7:53 and liopleurodon at 11:05 but they’re all amazing and made my feel really crazy inside!

@kaykasparhauser

Nov 4, 2023

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Not swearing

it just makes your day a little brighter, but you can say fuck.

@kaykasparhauser

Nov 4, 2023

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Real time traffic cameras

You can look at most corners in Manhattan and a lot of good ones in Brooklyn. You can watch the sunset from over the hudson from Chelsea , you can watch runners in Central Park, you can watch protests go over the williamsburg bridge. You can triangulate it with find my friends and Citizen and feel like Batman

@kaykasparhauser

Nov 4, 2023