Rec | JOINT BDAY PARTIES

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i feel like these get a bad rep but for anxious people who like an opportunity to divert attention, this is the perfect solution my good friend has the same bday as me and it makes me less sad about aging when i get to do it with them and focus some of my time on making sure they have a day that makes them feel special!!!

@cyberbully2011

Jan 10, 2024

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