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sincere posting look away if ur not a lovestruck fool
sometimes i look at this man with so much love in my heart it feels like butterflies again. i have best friends, of course. i love them so much and they will be in my life forever. but in these moments i’m struck with the thought “you are truly my best friend.” in past relationships, i’d try to force that feeling. now, it really does just occur to me. i get so excited for forever with him. most days, it’s not like this. most days we’re just together and there’s no stress or worry about our relationship. we’re just two people together, happy and that’s that. i am so used to this kind of love, it’s become my normal. but some days, i am struck by how in love i am and how lucky i am.
the first time i realized this was forever, a part of me felt weird about that. i had to say goodbye to the part of me that loved first dates, first kisses, and the ‘will they won’t they.’ Forever was always what I was looking for, but when presented with it, I worried about never feeling that way again.
Anyway, I don’t get first date feelings now, and I’ll never kiss someone new. But this feeling is so much better. He’s asleep right now, and I cannot wait for him to wake up so I can spend another day laughing with him.
Jan 29, 2024
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Maybe one day I'll share the cinematic story of how we got together, but I feel compelled to share more about our relationship now.
We've been together 10 years, and every day we're still looking at each other like this 😍. We love each other, but we also like, respect, and care for each other. It's not that we don't have conflict or get annoyed, but rather we just talk things through.. kindly.. respectfully.. even when angry. I truly didn't know relationships like this actually existed before we started dating, and that's why I married him even though long term commitment was scary!!!
Relationships need to be fed. Every day we show affection physically and verbally, every day we share our appreciation for each other. We've been through so much individually and together but we've always been on each other's side, even if we didn't fully agree. We leave space to each of us to be who we are, but also help each other grow where it's needed. We both feel like we've married up and lowkey kind of are obsessed with each other. I love being in partnership with him.
This isn't an attempt to paint me, us, or our marriage as perfect. Nothing ever is. I just want people to know that it's possible to be with someone long term and give and receive love. Being with someone is a choice, and it takes work, but overall it should be fun and easy! Who knew!!!
May 27, 2025
now i am a very lucky person because i am in love with some who was once one of my best friends. (sadly this rec probably isn’t universally applicable but contains good lessons i hope!) i’d met him during the first week of freshman year of college, and we immediately became close. hung out a ton and related on a lot of issues/values but our interactions were always platonic.
by wintertime we were being seen together around campus a ton, to the point that our acquaintances started asking whether we were a couple. we’d laugh at the idea, even joking about it ourselves. oh how oblivious we were.
spring rolled around and i suddenly caught feelings. for a couple weeks i tried to convince myself i didn’t like him because i was so afraid of losing our beautiful friendship. i thought it impossible that he would feel the same as me. yes, pretty torturous!! alas, my Emotional Suppression didn’t work. thank god, because one night when we were hanging out in my room he finally kissed me. i had been so afraid but instantly i knew it was right. the risk was worth it.
we’ve now been together for almost two years and he is truly the love of my life. he is the best risk I’ve ever taken. yes this is so platitudinous, but sometimes love comes when you least expect it and appears in odd places!
more generally, i think
- looking for people whose values align with yours is a wonderful place to start establishing intimate and long-lasting relationships, both platonic and romantic.
- it’s never worthwhile to force something to work out if your gut tells you it’s wrong — you’re worth more than that. love doesn’t thrive when it’s fed by obligation and pressure.
- don’t be afraid to present yourself in your full authenticity to others. if someone else has a problem with You in your Grandest Expression, they’re not worth your energy. love is meant to affirm and expand who you are, not place boundaries on it.
- go on self dates and explore what it means to have a loving relationship with yourself! you, as a singular self, are already whole and enough without having a partner. you are complete as a baseline regardless of your relationship status; a partner is meant to complement and embrace this wholeness!!
love is ridiculous and hard and beautiful; trust it when you feel it!!
Nov 10, 2024
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I am pretty certain that I am with the person I'm going to marry. We've been through so much together and no one in the world has ever known me as intimately as he does. My soul is crystal clear to him. And he loves me.
Most importantly, he is always ready to learn even more about me and to evolve with me and to make space for me in his life, in his habits, and in his behaviour.
I love him so much. I'm so lucky. I hope I find him in all my other lives. I hope we're together until the end of time.
Nov 29, 2024
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I cannot help being a panopticon unto myself so I am documenting every time I cry in 2024 and I have an emoji based system for the cause. I also include the title of the media that’s made me cry.
Cat names I’d use. I’d need about 800 cats to fulfill this list.
Gifts for my partner - things he mentions throughout the year off handedly.
Monarchs/monarch adjacent people I am interested in learning more about from my English/French/Scottish monarch fascination earlier this year.
Favorite short stories. Media I want to consume.
Gratitude lists. Also, a list of hyper specific things I like to look at when I don’t feel like a person.
A list of people my best friend and I predict will die in 2023 and 2024. I won last year.
Lyrics that rip my heart out. Favorite episodes of Charmed and why.
so many more lol. i am obsessed with personal little lists.
Jan 26, 2024
there’s brunch served to you and then there’s a whole bar set up for after it’s kind of perfect for a lil sunday solo date moment
Jan 28, 2024
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i somehow made everyone in his family concerned at christmas by doing this bit and forgetting they’re the most gullible people in the world. like his mom and brother urgently flocked to feel his head.
Jan 26, 2024