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learning to apologise well
probably going to need to do it heaps throughout your life, so might as well get comfortable with it early. i'm still working on this (and the ability to accept I have done something wrong without thinking it means I am terrible/unforgiveable/worthless/etc) so pls give tips if u have any
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@siddhartha
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@lilian
I think it helps to: - acknowledge exactly what you’re apologizing for (be specific) - if you can see how it might have made the person you’re apologizing to feel, share that you see their perspective (can even reflect what that might be) - assure them how you would do it differently / how you will do it differently if it comes up again. So they are left at the end with a clear sense that: - you understood what you did - you understood what impact it had - you won’t do it again / have a clear plan not to I feel like that would be a good apology. maybe there is room before or after the last point to share that you may have had different intentions, but it doesn’t erase what you did and the impact it had. Or if it was a total misunderstanding, can share that perspective here too.
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APOLOGIZING
nothing is harder than realizing you‘re in the wrong and having to apologize, even if it’s immediately then or a year later
but sometimes you have to rip the bandaid off and find peace with the fact that you ultimately did the right thing at the end. whether they accept the apology or not, that’s not something you can control but at least, you admitted your wrongs
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not pre-apologizing for ur actions/art
tbf i'm still working on this but: many ppl have the tendency to like, put themselves out in the world with an attached asterisk like "oop! sorry i exist! oop! sorry if you don't like me, i'm working on being the universally beloved human object! oop!" and thusly pre-apologize for every mildly annoying or perceptually uncouth action they will ever take. none of that shit. assuming one is regular and not trying to like, destroy the lives of everyone around themselves, one does not need to constantly explain and apologize for their actions. trust people to tell you if you suck, because They Will.
same goes for art obvs. don't apologize just make it and if people think it sucks they'll tell you.
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And forgiving. As soon as you recognize that you’re in the wrong, regardless of if you feel sorry, apologize. And as soon as a hatchet is surrendered, bury it. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Ask for mercy, ask for grace. Seventy times seven. Remember how much you’ve been forgiven. Make it right with your friend, with your enemy, with yourself, with God.
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