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what fills your days?

asking this when meeting someone new, fun discovery process for both parties! instead of “so what do you do for work?” or for the collegiates: “what’s your major?” this question serves the choose-your-own-adventure purpose because not everyone is afforded/prefers a stable job or education. it also allows you to get to know someone better, maybe they’re going to tell you about the 200 plants they take care of, or the profound though they’ve been stuck on. or, maybe they will think you’re weird and just tell you what they do for work, which is fine too, because it also answers the question. plus, people get excited when you ask them this. it’s unconventional in those early stages, cool points awarded brethren.

@weird

May 17, 2024

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Asking ‘so what do we think of oj simpson?’ To break the ice

gets people laughing earnestly or nervously. Both are good positions to have strangers in.

@kungfufenwick

Feb 6, 2024

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Easier to list the things not to mention; but also, how questions

When I list the things that are off bounds for a first time interaction, I then realize the sheer amount of things that are in bounds! I sort of have 3 big no-no's for first time convos, and you can decide for yourself if these feel right for you: - party politics [I leave other kinds of politics in as fair game: class warfare or the rise of fascism or the opportunity for anarchic community building, etc.] - religion - personal finances there are probably others, but those are the big 3 imo. from there, I like to ask lots of how questions: - how did you feel when you discovered your latest favorite song? can you pinpoint why it made you feel that way? - how did you meet the host? - how did you get into that hobby/line of work/subculture? - how do you find joy/inspiration/motivation in your daily life? - how do you like to dance? - how good is this coors/pabst/french onion dip/potato chip/music/etc? - how long has it been since your last speeding ticket? - how long do you think you could last without eating a potato? etc. you could also ask any of the fun questions that perfectlyimperfect asks: - fave things to put on toast - your go-to email signature - unique staple in your fridge BUT TRULY!!! spencerto is right: don't over do it!

@fetadata

Jul 20, 2024

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Touching the aircraft while boarding

Sounds weird but it’s pretty straightforward. Lightly tap the fuselage as you board the plane. I was taught to always do this as a gesture of goodwill and respect for the aircraft. My grandfather was an airman who spent much of his time in the Far East and I think the cultural affinity for honor respect etc crap like that really sat with him anyway Ive had ppl tell me this made them not only feel nice, but safer too. PMA baby (Positive mental attitude)

@madelinequinn

Feb 3, 2024

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the 8am flight from jfk to lhr IN ECONOMY

Overnight flights to London suck bad cuz it’s hard to sleep on the plane, eastbound means a short flight, and you arrive all disoriented, in pain, looking like dogshit. maybe even in a state of delirium cuz you’re all tyty. And it’s usually ass early that you’re landing. Can’t even check into a hotel for like 6 more hours!! What if i told u it doesn’t have to be this way? Virgin Atlantic (the grooviest airline) operates an 8am out of Kennedy, with wheels down in Heathrow happening around 8pm local time. Yea, u gotta drag your ass up at around 4 or 5am EST, but just pretend you’re on london time already because ur about to fuckin be! You spend the entire flight luxuriating in your own row, free from the hell of other people. upon arrival, you dip outta Heathrow, drop your shit wherever, and go party with yer mates. Fall asleep anywhere between 10pm-4am depending on what kinda night u want. then u wake up fresh as a fkn 🌼 on local time with no jet lag. Look at the pic man. when did u last see a flight that empty ? biiiiig September 16th 2001 vibes but without the heartbreak

@madelinequinn

Feb 3, 2024

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BRIAN ENO’S DIARY: “A YEAR WITH SWOLLEN APPENDICES”

My friend Richard Turley turned me onto this book in April or so. I’ve been reading it in correlation to whatever the day is. I’m grounded enough in reality to know that next to This Legend, I’m a drop in the bucket. BUT— I am delusional enough to think that in diligently reading his diary, I am able to channel the spirit and the honor with which he lives and creates. My other main takeaways have been that he loves porn and big tits. (Nice.)

@madelinequinn

Dec 16, 2021