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Listen/Talk without INSERTING YOURSELF
Try talking to someone without “oh yeah, when something similar happened to me…” or “that reminds me of [me story]” Or “I totally understand because I…” - It’s hard, but worth trying
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@gloodon
Feb 6, 2024
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@s0wet69
kinda cool, reminds me of one time i tried this before
Feb 15, 2024
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@scumquat
uh huh.
Feb 8, 2024
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@marie_nicole
The more you insert your own experience, the less you learn or connect. Sometimes just feeling someone's emotions with them is exactly what's needed. Especially if those emotions are uncomfortable/painful. WAAAAAAY easier said than done, but necessary.
Feb 7, 2024
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@sabmucuc3
This is the primary way my mom communicates with my siblings and I. I really struggle with being on the receiving end but also am noticing more and more it creep into my communication style. Will try this thanks.
Feb 7, 2024
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@nicky999doors
goated approach
Feb 6, 2024
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@diego
Great exercise
Feb 6, 2024
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@gloodon
To everyone saying “sometimes it’s good.” Or “relating to people builds connection” I say… TRUE! But you can also just dig deeper into what the other person is saying. ask questions. Be curious and experiment with focusing wholly on the other person. It’s not “the right way“ - it’s just A way. A less common way. Something to try
Feb 6, 2024
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@lizzzie
and then two ppl with adhd meet and all of this goes fown the drain 😭😭😭
Feb 6, 2024
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@halidgka
some "inserting" is an effort to relate and connect to the person and experience. it is not all selfish but maybe not always received well.
Feb 6, 2024
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@rexnw
Heck yah
Feb 6, 2024
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@possible
Very true, it is a challenge. I think it’s called passive listening.
Feb 6, 2024
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@nolalatte
paraphrasing what was said back to them and telling them what u noticed instead of immediately connecting it to you is so 👍🏽👍🏽
Feb 6, 2024
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@jakes
Por que no los dos ? boynamedcrow
Feb 6, 2024
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@caroline
how do i sent this to my mom
Feb 6, 2024
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@boynamedcrow
jakes yeah but so is being curious about other people
Feb 6, 2024
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@jakes
Relating to someone via shared experiences is cool actually
Feb 6, 2024
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@ddinneb
Getting familiar with this site, I listen to “Michigan Public” on my NPR One app. And I heard about “pi.fyi” I will take most advice from the shows… this playing around is based on them.
Feb 6, 2024
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