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but being too poor to regularly partake in all it has to offer. It builds character, or something.
Feb 9, 2024
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There’s a certain je ne sais quoi about it ya know
Jan 30, 2024
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this is something i should do much more of. every time i visit another city i scope out the best spots, hit all the sights, and pack in my days with fresh experiences.
once u live somewhere for a while u just kinda stop being excited and fall into a routine. there are still so many things i haven’t seen in nyc, and probably will never see, because 90% of my time is spent in my own neighborhood.
be a tourist in your own city
May 12, 2024
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This might not be possible for everything! But when I moved from a small town to an even smaller town for college instead of going to the big city school I’d wanted to, I was really disappointed and sad for the first few months. But then I realized we had some live music every so often and going out to the bars with friends scratched a similar itch to going to a city club without being overwhelming for me. Of course it’s not quite the same, but it’s something! I’m happier in a city now, but I do find myself missing my college town often. I think it was a blend of appreciating what I could get in that town that‘s harder to find in a city (like my friends being guaranteed to be close to me and not 3 neighborhoods away), and finding what I could that can somewhat compare to city stuff, that made most of my time there enjoyable :)
May 22, 2025
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I don't know how well this actually answers your initial question, I think it's more of a counterpoint to some of the stuff people have already said, but here it goes.
In the past (prior to social media or search engines) specific styles, specialized knowledge, and niche awareness actually took effort. You had to go out into the world and find a scene, be accepted, participate in it, contribute to it, and learn from others with specific knowledge within the specific sub- or counter-cultural scene. It took time, effort, and experience to craft an identity. Nowadays people cycle through various identities and trends like commodities because it takes no effort (they're sold to them by social media algorithms, influencers, brand accounts, etc.). It comes to you in your phone without you ever even having to leave the house or put in the time to discover it or participate in it (you just follow specific people or subscribe). You can be a passive observer or consumer, not an active contributor. As a result, you're not invested or tied down and committed to that core identity. You can cosplay depending on your mood or who you want to momentarily convey yourself as, because it's easy. Essentially, being a poser has become normalized. An identity is now something to be momentarily consumed and affected, rather than grown, built, and developed over time.
Granted, it's always been different in regards to "mass" culture and popular trends (both in the past and now). Those are impossible to miss and were always monopolized by specific trend setting institutions, but always by the time it gets to that point, the actual initial counter- or sub-culture that inspired it has already been coopted and has started to disintegrate under the weight and attention of mass consumption.
Feb 18, 2024
It's an action deserving of its own nickname. My cat's name is Gomez, but when he crosses his paws like this, he turns into Hodgkins Plumpersocks.
Feb 2, 2024
Please enjoy my attempt(s) to fill the void.
title: "pet; owner"
medium: hair
Jan 30, 2024