I feel like some of the anxiety of going places by yourself comes from not having another person to help fill the space/time. Bring a journal! A book! A crossword puzzle! A game boy! If you are actively engaged with something you’re going to have less brain space to worry about feeling anxious and, as someone who worked in food service for many years, I promise it’s not weird!!
Feb 18, 2024

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and make up some lies tbh. like the worst case scenario in my head is someone asking me "hey why are you alone here?" to which I can plausibly say "my friend's on the way/in traffic/etc" or, if it's already started, "my friend was going to come but had to cancel and I was already here." I've gone to a lot of shows alone and unsurprisingly none of that has ever happened but having something in the chamber really puts my mind at ease! (also seconding someone else's tip to get a drink immediately because I never know what to do with my hands)
Oct 20, 2024
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You’ve been wanting to hang out with people more. You did the brave thing of asking people to hang out. Now the fear that has kept you from doing this is being super loud. To be expected! Buying into the fear is not going to get you what you want. Each time you act bravely, that part of you grows. What does this anxiety look like? Does the fear look differently? What would happen if you could comfort it? Do some classic CBT- instead of all the horrible what ifs, what if it goes amazingly well? What if you make a new connection that feeds your soul? Think of some mantras for yourself. Repeat them over and over. Each time you start to feel anxious, take a nice deep breath (exhale longer than inhale) and remind yourself. Everything you want is on the other side of fear. And I believe you are brave enough to do it!!

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