concert? play? Reading? niche movie screening? Rave? Restaurant you want to try? whatever it is, try to wrangle friends if its up their alley (not a pro-antisocial message here) but if it does not work out, take urself! literally worst case scenario absolutely no one gives a fuck best case you make new circumstantial friends. Every one is busy making money and chasing what inspires them to stay here so schedules align once in a blue moon, don’t let that stop you from discovering / enjoying shit.
Feb 21, 2024
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I wish I knew why, but the following has worked for me:
-A lot of people say to just go to stuff but it does work! Finding an event that is relevant to your interests, and going solo guarantees a good time - you’ll either have a chill time by yourself or will get to chatting with other people that went alone too. I went to an art studio opening party because they had a build your own flower bouquet arrangement set up, with a still life drawing session of your bouquet afterward. I made a lovely friend who went alone too! Even if I didn’t meet anyone, it wouldn’t be a lost cause because I still went to something that was enjoyable for me on my own.
-Maybe more of a deeper cut option that’s not always possible, but I’ve also met folks that are friends of friends. Having that person in common does make things a lot easier.
Wishing you the best of luck! 🤠
Apr 18, 2024
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It's simple as riding a bike (after first failed attempts), but you got to do it regularly, if you stop you might fall easy in that obnoxious spiral of guilt where you feel like .... you don't fit in, you just don't belong - that's not right. You don't know that for sure. You got to keep trying to go that film nite, that local bands roaster gig, that DIY grassroots-boost event, that book club, that poetry open mic, that comedy show, that open call set (??) - I mean just go with the flow until your social battery runs low and you got to U-turn to your 'bat cave'. Your presence can change somebody's vibes when you walk in and give it a chance. In LDN is extremely challenging, NYC I guess is quite chill and buzzy at the same time, but hey, yolo at the end.
May 18, 2025
This is actually so easy and yet.
You're capable of meeting all of your own needs and when you accept this (and expect this people are just automatically drawn in.
If there's a movie you wanna go see, make the plan to go see it by yourself, and next time you're in a group of people (at work at a bar whateva) share with the group that you're going to see the movie on this date at this time and anyone is free to come.
You'll be surprised at how many people will join on things. And any time anyone doesn't, it's nothing to you bc you were gonna go by yourself anyway.
People are just really scared to invite people to things and even more scared to invite themselves. So just be the person to invite. If they come that's gorgeous if they don't that's also gorgeous you get to see the film either way (or go to the concert or museum or whatev)
Feb 15, 2025
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Life is too short to deprive yourself of cool art from your contemporaries.
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A never-ending faulty quest but necessary evolution
Jan 23, 2024
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PI.FYI its like i’m 14 scrolling through tumblr all night and sleepy all day in class, all over again.
But now I can’t call off cause im a big girl with big girl debt and I work for myself 🥲
life’s too short to not stay in bed
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