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Cycling thru

Everything is cyclical and you’ll have your eras when you feel evolved, self-assured, like you’ve “figured it out” and then suddenly everything will feel confusing and uncertain. Then you’ll cycle back. And this will happen through most of your life. And it’s happening to everyone you’re jealous of. Your time will come around, just ride the wave bb 😎 🏄‍♂️🤙🏼

@gabbaghoul

Jul 11, 2024

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Taking things slow

As person in their early 20s it sometimes seems like life is moving so quickly, and I’m constantly struggling to keep up with the pace of things. Everyone is in a different place. Some of my friends are still in school, some are married, some have the careers they will keep for the rest of their lives, and some are barely scraping by in the service industry. Do any of us want to be in the places we are? It feels to me that as soon as I begin to feel happy and comfortable somewhere, all I can think about is what my next step will be and how to get there. I’m starting to realize that I don’t need to know what I’m going to do next all. The. Time. The only reason I feel inclined to know these things is so that I have something to tell nosy family members. I can take my time. I can rest. I can move at my own pace. I have time. The journey, no matter how long, is a part of the process as well and the process can be made up of beautiful and meaningful moments in their own right.

@emmmmuh

Jan 17, 2025

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Welcome to your 30’s!

I’ve taken some time to think about this, because so much I could say feels circumstantial.  But here’s what I’ve come to: I’m still technically early 30’s, but one thing I’ve noticed from myself and friends is a higher level of intentionality.  There is an inherent drive to deepen bonds that are worth it, and moving energy away from those that are draining.  In order to do that, you have to be intentional about building those connections.  All my friends are busy, myself included, so we carve out time to spend together and make sure that happens at least monthly.  I actually host a monthly game night which is intentionally very laid back and an opportunity to just have fun, because I know we all need it!  I still make connections with new people, but there has to be a little something there for me to put my time and energy into creating something more. I also found my focus shifting from short term to long term.  That was uncomfortable for me.  While I’m still a very in the moment person, I started actually thinking about how I wanted my life to look not just right now, but years from now. It’s true that you’ll get a lot of clarity on who you are.  I just am who I am, and I’m not trying things out anymore.  That doesn’t mean I’m not open and curious and playful, but at my core I’m solid.  Either people vibe with that or they don’t, it’s not personal to me. I don’t need to be liked by everyone, and I don’t need to like everyone. Working on yourself is essential. We all have issues, most of them aren’t our fault, but it is our responsibility to work on them.  We also all have core issues that will never fully go away, but can get better.  Healing is a spiral and we’re never fully done.  Life is healing, integrating, enjoying the new level, then leveling up again! My 20s very much felt like a portal and now my 30s are feeling like a much different kind of one. Welcome to the club and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! 🥳

@mossyelfie

Jun 7, 2024

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Going to a concert alone

on your own timeline, you’re surrounded by people that are all there for the same thing if you need something to small talk about, easier to get tickets sometimes too. really gives me a thrill lol small venue, stadium, anywhere!

@riiia

Mar 23, 2024

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Meet your internet friends

Something light something casual, you learn About them in a real way and you always have the internet to fall back on if small talk goes quiet

@riiia

Mar 17, 2024

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working on changing how i talk about feelings

going to try really hard to not say “I feel that [insert statement or thought or criticism]“. Because whatever follows is not a feeling, and feelings should be described as feelings! it’s a different language set than statements or fleeting thought. i Feel [emotion] AND I think that [statement/thought]

@riiia

Mar 4, 2024