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I'm of the mind that the fear of being corny or cringe will eventually lead to excessive uniformity and a general aversion to risk taking. Like "such and such is so cringe" so it's probably safer to do nothing instead.
This is impossible to say without mad clichƩs and platitudes but let me try to cook for a second.
I think that detaching yourself from the thoughts of others is very freeing. None of our decisions are made in a vacuum and weāre all going to be influenced by something, but redirecting your thought process back towards "what do EYE like/enjoy?ā and away from "what do other people THINK about the things I like/enjoy?" has become a healthy reset for me.
Iāve also been thinking about the amount of art weāve probably lost out on because someone internalized or felt discouraged by a negative reaction to something that shares a similar vision or concept. I feel that dislike is a guarantee with everything. Itās very easy to do and itās bonding (I do it all the time) but it also helps me realize that there are always going to be things that someone hates and letting that stop you from doing things that bring you joy, will inevitably kill your spirit.
I canāt imagine a world where Viola Davis didnāt cry until she was covered in snot and out of breath, or where Jim Carrey didnāt act with his entire body, or where Madonna never rolled around on stage in a wedding dress. A lot of those choices came from doing what other people at the time wouldnāt do. Behaviors that people believed were worthy of contempt.
Thinking about how if Joni Mitchell didnāt write Blue, Fiona might not have written When The Pawn, and SZA might not have written Ctrl, or what would happen if any of them fell into the belief that honesty and vulnerability were cringeworthy acts or something you should run from.
People respect a full SEND. If thereās a question of whether or not you should send, choose a full send EVERYTIME. None of these people were praised for their vanity or willingness to be reserved, they were praised for the exact opposite.
Feb 28, 2024
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Not really a revolutionary sentiment; this is something people talk about a lot. But it leads to people living their lives as if theyāre on a stage in a literal sense where their homes become set dressing for the aspirational lifestyle they want to project with the purpose of creating monetized content thatās palatable to an audience and to advertisers. Tiktok seemed to democratize this landscape quite a bit to where people who didnāt fit the narrower expectations set on Instagram and YouTube were able to carve out niches for themselves, but these niches were still subject to specific visual languages, trends, and ārules.ā And now that itās almost certainly on deathās doorstep, it should be interesting to see how this evolves.
If you want to share your authentic life you should do it authenticallyāitās scary to bravely offer yourself up in such an unfiltered way but itās where you currently are and itās part of your story. You may not be happy with the way your house looks now but viewers might enjoy seeing your journey of becoming and the way the space you live in evolves with that! Sometimes you donāt have to feel ready or confident enough to do something; the confidence can come with practice and familiarity. The hardest part is showing up! š
Jan 14, 2025
Donāt become numb. Nothing is cringe. Be less ironic. Caring is the coolest thing you can do. Turn soft and lovely whenever you can. Individualism is dumb. Depending on people is beautiful. We are all one. Talk to somebody on the train or in the store. Smile at people walking past you. Free yourself.
Nov 4, 2024
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Look, first and foremost, itās normal to want to look cool. We all want to fit in, be accepted, be validated and feel like we belong, itās a natural human thing.
But the only way out is through. You have to accept and love yourself. You have to embrace your cringe, and your wonders, and your quirks. You have to learn to be proud of them. You have to validate yourself and understand that by choosing to be you, you will lose some things. Maybe some friends, maybe some validation. But you will get so much more. Thereās nothing cooler than someone who is unafraid of being who they are. Thatās the key, I guess. And itās freaking hard, so itās a process. Just start with the basics. Dress how you want to dress, look how you want to look, and experiment with it, see how you feel, face the rejection with open arms. Be cringe, but be authentic.
Nov 18, 2024
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Remote, cucumber, bag of chips, house keys. Not sure they get anything out of it, but they just seem happy to be kept in the loop.
Feb 24, 2024
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It bums me out whenever someone's trying to say something but cuts themselves off or says "nevermind" because they assume that they're wasting time. Think it through, or let it come back to you. 3 years ago, I started saying, "Talk through the thought" with my friend, and I think it's made me more patient, and I've ended up hearing/saying some cool shit (or at least some funny shit) that I would've probably missed out on otherwise.
Feb 23, 2024
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Sometimes whatās understood still needs to be said
Apr 10, 2024