Sheās has been my best friend for about 8 years and she is genuinely the most important person in my life. She is so immensely compassionate and full of love to give. She is always able to find something to love in everyone, even the most unlikely characters, and she actively chooses to see those traits in people above all else. Sheās an artist above all else. One of the queerest bitches I know, so sexy, so full of rizz. She has extremely based politics and would trust her opinion on aaaaalmost anything (we have our disagreements about food JAJAJ). She has a very complex, personal music taste that is very private and I have gotten to know very slowly over time. Sheās studying architecture and tho this is one of the banes of her existence, I think she loves it. Her attention to detail in everything in life is CRAZY: she is very sensitive, observant, and really really really smart. This also means she is insanely good at everything she does. She knows a lot about a lot of things so itās impossible to get bored talking to her. Everyone likes Aurora and she is the kind of person where if someone doesnāt like her, thatās a red flag about them. Also everyone wants her because she is so charismatic and dances so so so fucking well. We have dated twice in the past, broken up for circumstantial factos, and currently have a bit of a very queer non-monogamous arrangement where we like to be flirty and sexy eith each other, but we have no interest in dating and we actually have been in multiple relationships since our break up. We have learned everything together and I hope to continue to be able to learn and grow next to her forever.
weāre each other's person; the first person we want to talk to when we wake up, and the last person we want to see when we go to bed. when we get good news, theyāre the first person iād tell. we want to know all the small things that make up who we are and cherish it. we do NAWT have sex or maybe like 1 time a year because im too ace for that. but we kiss and we cuddle and we hold hands and we laugh and we sing and we dance. i want them to be someone creatively imbued, an artist of any type, who loves my freckles more than i do. someone to notice all the small things about me and love them without even saying it. and if weāre talking logistics, they HAVE to be ok with the whole not-a-boy-not-a-girl + asexual ordeal i got going on because i am not doing that hellscape again.
so in other words basically a queer platonic relationship i think
Anna and I have been friends since we started university three years ago and we have just gotten closer and closer everyday. We are both the horniest genderqueers you will ever meet and are always on the look out for cute queer people to get dreamy over and giggle. We are very reliable companions, braving The Horrorsā¢ļø together every single day. My life would be impossible without Anna. Anna is a business boy ironically. Like, they are Patrick Bateman with pronouns. Anna is EXTREMELY BASED and knows a shit ton about politival history everywhere almost. Theyāve also been queer for forever, so they know a lot about that too and have taught me a lot about being queer. Anna is also really funny, really smart, really kind, full of love to give, very considerate, very stylish, and very driven. They are a blessing to have in my life and I think everyone need an Anna. We are such an iconic duo.
I met Laura at a queer event in the community and instantly had a crush on her (many such cases; having a crush on Laura is a rite of passage in our friend group). Extremely stylish emo girl with a very gentle and cunty energy to her, amazing sense of humor, carries herself with so much love and so much care. She radiates everywhere she goes. I have a profound admiration for Laura because sheās driven as fuck, extremely resilient and strong, SUPER FUCKING SMART, and takes no bullshit. Laura is strong. Laura is really strong. Passionate STEM baddie, based politics AF, down to anything, LOVES Minecraft, has an excellent music taste that is all-to-vast for me to fully understand, but sheās found her people for that. Also, she has like all these really cute and funny mannerisms that distinguish her a lot. I love her. We have shared some very extremely tender moments together and kept each other sane through some of the hardest moments of our university life. Sheās one of thise friends I will always be happy to see no matter how long itās been. I feel extremely privileged to have her in my life, and if you have a Laura in your life, you should too and you better be loving her properly.
New follower? OOP! Does that men we're getting married? You re-rec'd me? You want me so bad let's make out. The baddies wanna be mutuals? What if I cum about it? Much to consider... PI.FYI dating-app mode when???
A little personal, but being non-binary, I grew up very dissociated from my body and my time, so I donāt remember a good chunk of my formative years and have retained none of my hobbies. Recently tho, I have been trying to piece myself back together, so I have been spending a lot of time on my own. Another thing about me is that I have crushes everywhere I go, so I spend a lot of time loving others. After breaking-up with an ex that made me feel very neglected qnd unappreciated, I decided that I was going to give myself as much love and attention as I give my crushes and lovers. This has changed me. I just let myself feel my feelings and get carried away by them. I get myself little treats and flowers, I get myself little treats and gifts. I organize little fun dates/plans for myself where I engage in new hobbies. Small manageable things that donāt feel too overwhelming to learn, like decorating Altoids tins with collage or journaling. By letting myself navigate the world through my feelings, Iāve discovered what I like, dislike, and developed little rituals and habits that I can then tell other about and share. Social media has helped me that way, surprisingly. I treat my instagram like a scrap book and use it to document my feelings with shitposts and photos; the visual story telling makes me appreciate the little things. Pinterest allows me to collect things I like and develop a taste with no effort and no consequences, and I end up with huge pin boards full of pictures and art I love and that make me feel particular things I can name and explore. This app has been good for that too. It takes time, love, self-compassion, and trust. Trust that the love others give you is legitimate. Trust that you are liked for a genuine reason. Trust that the mundane is magical by itself, love it for that. Trust that you donāt need to be special to be worthy of love, you can just be a person and thatās really cool <3