I mean you are at a bus stop or something and you start small talk with the stranger next to you and then you just tell them the thing that is lurking in the back of your mind, like “you know what? My friend just texted me and she’s spiraling a bit but am
I a bad friend for needing space bc I feel like I’m spiraling?”
if you're stuck on something it's nice to get a big metaphorical smack across the noggin by a clear-eyed confidante, whether it's a homie or a family member or a therapist that can give you a fresh and radical perspective and stop you from rutting around in the circle of repetitive brooding. If you've been trying to work something out or been engaging in some negative self talk, ask someone to listen for a few mins and then tell you that you're being ridiculous. everyone needs it sometimes.
Definitely have a conversation with your friend. It‘ll nag at you if you don’t, you’ll always wonder. Wouldn’t go straight for dumping, sus it out first in an inquisitive way. But it’s not great 🥶
Asking for a coffee for here with a real mug, sitting and chilling while you sip - no phones, no computers… (i guess this is what Europeans just do… and we should too)
