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it came out in 2020 and meant a lot to me then, but even since i've revisited it several times. i lost my dad quickly and unexpectedly a few years later, and bits and pieces of that interview have helped me process and grieve. been battling a bit of a dark fog lately and read it again this morning and feel a little more grounded. just reminders of life and meaning.
Mar 22, 2024
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🕊Today would have been my dad’s 76th birthday. He died 5 years ago. We let him go, then the world shut down. It’s taken 5 years for me to even be able to reflect on that time and not feel sick.
I grieved my father years before his actual death. It still hit me in ways I never could have expected. I connected more with him as he was dying than I did most of my life. I talk to his spirit more now than I ever did when he was alive. I’m still untangling from the things he did, but that’s the task of all children. I can only hope all the work I’ve done and continue to do ends the generation trauma with me, and my children are spared.
I’m fine with the peace I’ve found in his death. The grief I feel is not adjusting to life without him, but rather I didn’t get more of his goodness when he was alive. His own trauma and horrible choices made that impossible. So, I now get that goodness through his memory- listening to the music he loved, wearing his shirts I inherited, telling my kids he’s a guardian angel for him. I can only hope his spirit has found peace too.
I grieved my father years before his actual death. It still hit me in ways I never could have expected. I connected more with him as he was dying than I did most of my life. I talk to his spirit more now than I ever did when he was alive. I’m still untangling from the things he did, but that’s the task of all children. I can only hope all the work I’ve done and continue to do ends the generation trauma with me, and my children are spared.
I’m fine with the peace I’ve found in his death. The grief I feel is not adjusting to life without him, but rather I didn’t get more of his goodness when he was alive. His own trauma and horrible choices made that impossible. So, I now get that goodness through his memory- listening to the music he loved, wearing his shirts I inherited, telling my kids he’s a guardian angel for him. I can only hope his spirit has found peace too.
Jul 19, 2025
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6 years to today, my dad passed away. Tim Linghaus’ album Memory Sketches helped me process my grief. Sharing this here for everyone else to discover.
Jan 24, 2025
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the article is beautifully written as the writer hits all the right points. Kweller poses top tier interviews fluctuating over past traumatic experiences over the death of his late son, but still finds a way to sound himself. Kweller is such an awesome guy, and if you read this you will agree with that sentiment as well.
Jun 2, 2025
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⭐makes my kid happy to get free books so i wanna make other people’s kids happy too.
Jan 29, 2024
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💔especially when there are so many better fits out there. dump him, babe.
Feb 29, 2024
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⭐she's one of my tops too, so i'm just gonna rec some of my fave reads of the past few years:
august blue by deborah levy the guest by emma cline tides by sara freeman pretend i'm dead / vacuuming in the dark / big swiss by jen beagin hurricane girl by marcy demansky we do what we do in the dark by michelle hart noone is talking about this by patricia lockwood want by lynn steger strong luster by raven leilani temporary by hilary leichter pizza girl by jean kyoung frazier goodbye vitamin by rachel khong tampa by alissa nutting hot milk by deborah levy 13 ways of looking at a fat girl by mona awad barbara the slut and other people by lauren holmes cat brushing by jane campbell
august blue by deborah levy the guest by emma cline tides by sara freeman pretend i'm dead / vacuuming in the dark / big swiss by jen beagin hurricane girl by marcy demansky we do what we do in the dark by michelle hart noone is talking about this by patricia lockwood want by lynn steger strong luster by raven leilani temporary by hilary leichter pizza girl by jean kyoung frazier goodbye vitamin by rachel khong tampa by alissa nutting hot milk by deborah levy 13 ways of looking at a fat girl by mona awad barbara the slut and other people by lauren holmes cat brushing by jane campbell
Jan 31, 2024