this might not all apply to you, but sometimes if I overthink social interactions in general, I end up missing out on what could have been a really good conversation. I usually like to ask myself what I’m genuinely curious about/want to know about a specific person and let my questions lead into a more fruitful discussion. worst case scenario is that don’t take the bait and then the conversation ends, but most of the time I find people like talking about themselves, which can lead to something y’all have in common.
I also don’t put pressure on myself to “make a friend” after one interaction. some people require crumbs of interactions before they start to let you in!
Mar 27, 2024
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Best way to discover the early sparks of friendships, in my experience, is to be genuinely curious about those you happen across. Ask them questions. Find out and ask about their "true self" list of conversation topics.
As you probe and listen and make space for them to talk with a long runway, they'll likely do the same. If not, no worries, there's always someone else.
Feb 11, 2025
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dont just start talking for the sake of talking, instead find something you actually think is interesting about that person, give them the compliment/question and go from there.
be present, actually listen to what they’re saying instead of just being in your head thinking about what you’re gonna say next. you’ll be surprised how much people love to talk about themselves!
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I totally get the temptation to ask insightful and thought-provoking questions but remember sometimes you need to keep it simple. If it's a loud party with lots of people, not everyone is going to want to have a super deep conversation with someone they just met. Small talk is annoying and tedious but sometimes it's a much-needed entry point. Meet some cool people, get their contact info, and then message them later with some big questions.
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