In:
⢠more quality time with the girlies
⢠deactivating Instagram until further notice
⢠only thrifting gifts & âwantsâ from here on out
⢠doing schoolwork at the local library
⢠expanding my garden area
⢠outdoor concerts
⢠somatic therapy Out:
⢠dating (for now)
⢠feeling insecure about my big ass forehead lol
⢠obsessing over work and school
⢠living in the future instead of the now
⢠reading self-help books
⢠being a people pleaser
⢠spending without intention
In:
keeping track of things I like
reading in the morning
doing things around the city & going to events
taking the bus more
spending more time sewing & making my own clothes Out:
looking through instagram mindleslly
staying in bed when I have nothing to do
being insecure (ever)
fomo
inÂ
creating for fun â alone & w/friends
sharing online without self judgementÂ
flirting w/no expectation
deactivating w/no reason
intentional friendships
community as a verb
following my own timeline
completing books
mindful journaling
collecting hobbies like shells
straightforwardnessÂ
game nightsÂ
internal validation
thoughtful approach to physical affection
home cooked meals
asking for favorsÂ
financial independenceÂ
multiple streams of incomeÂ
healthy dose of delusionÂ
intense eye contactÂ
intentional datesÂ
out
over self indulgence in restÂ
non reciprocal relationships
over explainingÂ
overthinking shit that doesnât require an overthoughtÂ
self inflicted emotional sadismÂ
frivolous spendingÂ
babying men â in the workplace & in friendshipsÂ
keeping clothing items that have been unworn for monthsÂ
random hookupsÂ
living paycheck to paycheck
keeping the peace in toxic environments
wishing ppl who did you wrong well after (in fact were not even gonna wish them anything)
after hoursÂ
IN
-creativity
-chai-der
-routines
-movement breaks
-cultivating wonder
-community organizing
-live theater
-budgeting
-making strange acquaintances
-picking up interesting rocks
-introspection
-having a laugh with friends
-baths
-the elderly OUT
-looksmaxxing
-directing self-hatred outward
-people-pleasing
-remembering past G.P.A.s
-curated vintage t-shirts
-booktok
-using therapy speak to gossip
-identical bridesmaid dresses
-listening to playlists for nostalgia purposes
-intermittent fasting
-playing things by ear take note: more things are in than out!
even if its delusional, I really do love the idea of trusting that all of the perceived hardships, anxieties, and lessons ultimately lead to a path that's catered to our individual needs for growth and learning. maybe I am detaching from reality in an effort to cope, but I truly am starting to believe that miracles (big and small) happen daily and that we will all be ok in the end. attention and intention are everything.