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california dreamin

sorta a weird rec but as a born and bread easter coast city cad and self identified (although widely disputed) new englander, i feel like i was always opposed to the west coast bc i felt like it was for posers and rich people but idk something flipped in my brain recently. this isn’t even a rec atp but i think that for a while la was the it city and so i never wanted to go bc nyc was for real people (wtv that means) and now that nyc is the cool city (at least on certain digital spaces) ive become more atuned to things that i dismissed in the past. like people are try hards and social climbers and a little performativly high maintenance. anyway my point is is that i spent the last week in socal and found it very refreshing! i don’t think socal is flawless or devoid of the same issues the city has but people feel a little more free to be ambitious. like socal really bodied with their whole city of dreams thing. k enough being honest on the internet for now.

@mdoinurmom

Apr 29, 2024

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only come if it’s intentionally + aware !

here’s my misc thoughts lol i’m no expert but this is from my POV as someone who’s lived here full time a bit and grew up visiting all the time. firstly, you’re def right that it is expensive — nearly impossible to relocate to if you don’t have a job secured and aren’t rich. even moreso if you have never visited or have only done one super tourist-y visit--it’s not just Times Square and Statue of Liberty (love her tho) rainbows and butterflies vibes lol. like i seriously do not recommend moving here if you haven’t been to other boroughs, and neighborhoods outside of Midtown, SoHo, FiDi, UES etc. i’ve never been to england so can’t speak to it bit you might find it helpful to look online for comparisons to cities you’ve spent more time in - london and other cities in europe perhaps. consider if NYC would be that much more exciting or “better” for you? also there’s a huge issue of influencers and people who wanna live here impulsively for fun that has driven up rent and driven out lifetime residents, esp working class folks and people of color. (lots of writing out there on the difference between moving to any city vs gentrifying one, and what one can do to not be complicit in the latter). and, my family is from here and i have always loved the city; i did get a job here after graduation but i really wouldn’t have moved here if i hadn’t. so definitely come here intentionally, and arrive with a willingness to engage with your community! sometimes new residents who aren’t as acquainted with the “real” new york and can’t afford apts in the more gentrified or historically wealthy areas (most of manhattan, some parts of brooklyn) have a misconception of the city, so they end up feeling awkward or “unsafe” where they live, and thus don’t give back to their neighborhood. it’s veryyy weird that some people move here only to go to work, eat out and party on the weekends. (not saying this is you ofc! but just a general note). the irony is that NYers get a bad rep for the mind your own business culture and realness--and yeah NYers aren’t “nice”, but people are kind. folks care about and actively help out their neighbors. i saw this in my own fam growing up! and as sinatra himself once said: “if i can make it here, i’ll make it anywhere.” it is a tough place to “make it” for people without roots. but i’d never deny that new york, for many of us, lives up to its reputation as the so-called greatest city in the world ;)

@marxinista

Aug 30, 2024

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LA

Being in LA is like living in constant dystopia. It’s a multitude of pockets of both good and bad. My experience is a love/hate relationship, but you learn so much about yourself just existing in this space. It’s not home for me, but I’m glad to have stopped by.

@spacecowboy

May 29, 2024

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☾ NIGHT IN THE WOODS (Infinite Fall) ☽

"ꀤ ꌃꍟ꒒ꀤꍟꃴꍟ ꀤꈤ ꍏ ꀎꈤꀤꃴꍟꋪꌗꍟ ꓄ꃅꍏ꓄ ꀸꂦꍟꌗꈤ'꓄ ꉓꍏꋪꍟ ꍏꈤꀸ ꉣꍟꂦꉣ꒒ꍟ ꅏꃅꂦ ꀸꂦ" mae borowski returns to her hometown of possum springs, and with her return comes some long-time-coming reunions and unsolved mysteries this game broke me played it the week it came out back in 2017, and in hit me in that way some media does where it comes at a point in your life where it feels all too specific to your circumstances and it opens wounds you didn't even know went that deep. this shit felt like the therapy session you needed but reeeeally didn't want to go to. healing and hurtful, all at once also just happens to be extremely funny. it's a very specific kind of humor, where even in the rare moments it doesn't land, it still lands because the circumstances around it make it all the funnier. something as simple as a too-long pause in the dialogue will have me in stitches deserves all the love in the world, and it will forever have my whole heart. WITCHDAGGAH

@el_ugh

Apr 19, 2024

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♻︎ CROW JOURNALIING ♻︎

or junk journaling, if you'd like to not perpetuate myths about crows liking to collect trinkets. i just think it sounds cuter weirdly, as someone who's a writer, i've never really been good at or liked journaling. every planner i've ever owned has remained empty. if i try to write something any time other than when the fancy strikes me, it just feels inauthentic, like i'm trying too hard. this has been the first time journaling actually felt like it had a purpose for me, and actually felt weirdly therapeutic basically, it's just anything i can recycle, i make into a page. i like a common theme, so places i've visited, media i like, similar aesthetics, emotions i'm feeling. and then we get the qr code page & i'm reminded that this is probably the quintessential depiction of what scoring 121 on the RAADS-R looks like eh, i'm having fun🤷‍♀️

@el_ugh

Apr 16, 2024

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✪ Sawayama (rina sawayama) ✪

"𝗪𝗲 𝗿𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗿𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗧𝗼𝗸𝘆𝗼 𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝘀, 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝗹𝗼𝘀𝗲 𝗦𝘂𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝗳 𝟮𝟬𝟭𝟮, 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗛𝗼𝘁, 𝗰𝗿𝗮𝘇𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗿𝘂𝗻𝗸, 𝗳𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗿𝗼𝗼𝗺 𝗦𝗶𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗖𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆, 𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗮𝘁 𝗶𝗻 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝘆𝗲𝘀" a genre-bending, cinematic pop debut for the ages it's a little criminal how good this is. like damn, save some for the rest of us it takes such a brilliant artistic vision to craft something this airtight. like i'm not sure i could find a flaw if i tried. and she had some stiff competition in 2020 so that's saying something like it's artsy, but it's fun! but also emotional! but also filled with bangers! and it remains so cohesive! what more could you want?? lightning in a bottle. an absolute star making turn. she was fucking born to do this

@el_ugh

Apr 19, 2024