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Live with heartbreak for a while. Itâll be different but the same. Youâll forget why and then remember and feel it all over again. Delete their pictures but keep them in a secret folder on your phone so you can cry by yourself watching their face smile at you.
Re-learn old habits youâve forgotten you even enjoyed because you strayed so far away from who you once were. In some odd way youâll have to re-learn happiness, too. Well, not so much re-learning it but changing its meaning, find new ways to feel fulfilled, the same way you once felt with them.
Make some more lame playlists with oddly specific titles so you at least feel like youâre making something out of all the quiet pain you feel inside.
And wonder. A lot of wondering. All the time. Everywhere. In your house. At your job. Inside your body and next to you in the bed you once woke beside them, smiling.
And youâll never forget, but it will get painfully easier.
Re-learn old habits youâve forgotten you even enjoyed because you strayed so far away from who you once were. In some odd way youâll have to re-learn happiness, too. Well, not so much re-learning it but changing its meaning, find new ways to feel fulfilled, the same way you once felt with them.
Make some more lame playlists with oddly specific titles so you at least feel like youâre making something out of all the quiet pain you feel inside.
And wonder. A lot of wondering. All the time. Everywhere. In your house. At your job. Inside your body and next to you in the bed you once woke beside them, smiling.
And youâll never forget, but it will get painfully easier.
May 7, 2024
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Day 1 of heart break:
Why is it so hard to fathom this feeling until youâre fully swimming 10 feet deep in it. You think to yourself âif and when it happens, Iâll be prepared, this isnât my first rodeo, no biggie babyâ. Then it hits you like a ton of brick, an achy pain that just kinda sits on your chest all day. Itâs not just a physical weight, itâs almost a knot in your throat. As your eyes well up you repeat the mantra âthis too shall pass, this too shall passâ and delete their number along with all pictures of them and the places youâve been, emails shared and LinkedIn messages exchanged (we old).
This feels like an emo AIM status.
This feels like an emo AIM status.
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đi wish we could meet irl and distract from our broken hearts a little bit by doing things together and hug.
im experiencing the same thing rn (devastating and out of the blue) and it helps me write down everything, every thought, word, idea, emotion that i feel i need to write it down.
iâve seen my friends every day, iâve watched movies, iâve read a lot. i know it feels like itâs not going to get better but i promise it will. is reminding yourself that everything passes, let all the emotions pass through you. itâs reminding yourself that -new and goods things are coming to you- though i know itâs really hard and painful to think abt yourself in a future where that person is no longer there. :-(
i understand how painful time passes, how painful it is to think about that person and all the attached memories, but itâs time to think about all the new memories YOU are going to create, that life is painful but not that much, itâs time to cry it all, and to get things done. little by little, days pass and the pain will start to fade away, sometimes youâll be alright, sometimes you wonât, but is all part of the process.
iâm sorry you are experiencing that horrible thing called heartbreak, i hug u wherever you are. đ«
iâm sorry you are experiencing that horrible thing called heartbreak, i hug u wherever you are. đ«
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đI like to remember that time is on your side, it will get easier as time goes by just for nature of it. So focusing on going through the day-to-day the best you can while being kind to yourself and letting the days past is what helped me.
Itâs not easy, you have to go through the grief to come up on the other side.
But stick with the things that make your present more bearable and you WILL come up on the other side.
For me it was doing things for myself: listening to music, visiting close friends, cooking for myself, going on walks on nature, spending time alone and bored and finding new things I liked and enjoying my own company was life changing.
The loneliness is rough but it can be a great teacher (at least I like to think something had to come out of all that pain).
I guess it really depends on the break up the narratives you are telling yourself right now, but if you can be mindful about them, observe them, and let go of trying to understand and control everything they get less cruel. Right now you just need to survive and receive some kindness, later on you can build the story around it (Without the fog of the pain around it).
And for the love of god cut contact with them, their family and friends, at least for a while. rebuild yourself outside their zone of influence. Show vulnerability if you can, it can bring great support and lending ears, BE KIND TO YOURSELF (although have in mind sometimes over indulgence is not kind).
You will get through it, time is on your side.
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I highly recommend taking your time to appreciate your friends. Just when you think you are getting used to their company, take a step back and analyze your friendsâ face, the details, the eyes, the smile.
Youâll find that is a really good feeling, enjoy :)
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