I am also a drop out. It took a long time after dropping out to feel more comfortable and confident in myself after intelligence wasnât my #1 personality trait anymore. Here are some things I have done to help:
-Get really, really good at a hobby. I make jewelry and I keep pushing myself to do bigger and more elaborate things. I know I am becoming an expert on my craft and that makes me pretty damn smart! I have seen myself grow from doing simple patterned string necklaces to now making elaborate, chunky beaded chainmail pieces. I have also gotten good at drawing up my own patterns which just adds another layer to knowing about my craft that I didnât even dream of doing in the beginning.
-Take a class, any class. I recently took a writing class, and it was so rewarding. I felt very out of place being the only one without a degree amongst my classmates, but it was a very accepting group, and I walked away with so much valuable critique. It was also nice to connect with people I wouldnât have run into in my day to day, and hear what they had to say about the world, my classmates writing, and how they could see improvement for everything. I found it through a bookstore/ teaching center type place in my city, but I know many many many community centers offer classes, or you can find online classes/ follow along with videos for plenty of other crafts/ skills.
-Read random shit. Go to fun shops, or little free libraries, or ask around and pick something that sounds silly or crazy to read. Even if you donât end up liking it or donât end up finishing it, you can still learn something from this experience. Itâs just a path that you donât want to expand into, which can point you some other way instead.
-Read Essays. This, I think, is the easiest way to start âfollowing the schemasâ like I saw someone else recommend. The essay is such a broad category of writing that takes countless forms, and can cover any topic. I like the Best American Essay anthology, but there are plenty of other collections sorted by topic, author, year, region, etc. I also like the site Brevity.com for super impactful flash essays. I could go on and on about specific essays if you wanted some more recs, feel free to reach out if you do!
-Remind yourself you arenât dumb, because you arenât. This may be more projection than anything, but I constantly have to remind myself that Iâm not stupid, I just made a mistake. I donât need to prove anything to anyone: all I need to do is live my life and be cool đ