U will accumulate these kinds of objects over a lifetime anyways—best that when they come into Ur life, they hold some sentimental value rather than being a tchotchke that just collects dust. Wall art is a bit of an exception to this rule—get that stuff framed (or do it Urself! A standard size frame, an xacto knife, and a little patience can go a long way).
My most general advice is to be patient and picky. Don’t rush to fill Ur space. And a find Urself a little reference book for colour palette inspo to help keep stuff grounded (just use something you have already!)
May 23, 2024
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I'm frustrated with my tendency towards indecision, and I react by overcompensating. But maybe I could let slow choosing protect me instead. Especially financially!
I get on a tear for about a month at a time about one thing (interior design currently) and I want to upend my material possessions. I'm obsessively thinking about money and furniture right now and the occasional reward of the great FB marketplace find temporarily justifies the time sink of it all. I feel the pressure of grabbing something before it's gone and to fill the room I'm working on with all the little details that will perfect it and justify the time spent. But at the end of a search, online shopping and even just window shopping makes me feel depressed and like I'm wasting hours of my life on insubstantial nothings. Making one purchase greases the wheels to make another and the desire to consume exponentially increases while the satisfaction dwindles.
The rec is to let the dust settle before reacting to change. Even if you have barriers that will physically prevent you from making your next decision, like a budget forcing you to wait on a following purchase, don't invest time researching that next decision until you've figured out how you feel about your last one. Move all the furniture in a room around and leave it for a few days even if it's sort of worse, put all the knick-knacks in a box and then take them out again, write down everything you want to change on a piece of paper and leave it on your desk for a week. Draw a picture of your vision and tape it above your bed. I drew literally 6 different versions of the room I'm sitting in and it's still in a different state than I could have predicted I would have chosen.
My favorite thing in here now is a collage I made years ago which I dug out of a moving box in my closet and stuck in a dirty frame my friend thrifted. It's a crappy DIY and I had to use a claw hammer to bend and unbend the nails holding the backing to do it. I hated the result, but left it on my desk anyways and now it makes me happy every day.
Apr 11, 2025
all those packed, roughed up journals and dingy carhart jackets and suitcases covered in stickers you see on pinterest were not created by overconsuming a bunch of bullshit from amazon and decorating them in one night! they're were made from months and years of real and genuine love and use of the objects. curate your aesthetics slowly and more mindfully instead of trying to disingenuously copying everything you see on pinterest for an instant gratification. those tiktoks you see of brand new planners overflowing with random junk is not realistic and impractical. decorate however you want but do it genuinely for yourself, not to recreate an aesthetic you think you need. your stuff will look better in the end if you love it truly and well!!
Jan 3, 2025
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I have so many random little trinkets (small paintings for my bathroom, jewellery dishes and even a little jewellery box shaped like a cushion with a cunty heel on top) — all of which were unexpected, slowly-collected finds at random thrift stores.
I second the previous comment about slow articulation. If you have the essentials, and are craving individual-niches — take your time :) which is prescriptive advice, but the effects of delayed gratification are like how paintings go up in a museum — with time, shuffling between here n there, and lots of patience
I also like going to winners or marshals or home sense for little strange things
Aug 8, 2024
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recommending this to God
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Air out Ur home! Enjoy the sounds of the street! Spring is coming!
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I too want to contribute to banana discourse
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