hard conversations are really hard (duh) so your body will often like physically try to stop you saying it. youāll lose the words and not know how to start. My trick (learnt from when my dad told me my mum was gonna die), is to start with a line that you canāt come back from. something like āIām sorry to tell you thisā, or āthere is something important I need to tell youā, or āletās sit down for this conversationā. You canāt come back from that, the conversation has to happen, you have to tell them then and there because youāve announced that it is coming. Having that first line planned, but not the whole conversation, I find really helpful because it means I know how to start, I know Iāll actually go through with it, but I donāt agonise over the details of the rest. Somehow makes it less anxiety inducing. in the moment of saying it it often makes you feel sick but it forces you to come out and say it. Itās always worked for me!
May 24, 2024
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Depending on the conversation, it could also be an uncomfortable one all parties involved but the only through it is through! Keep in mind why you want to have the conversation in the first place and the importance behind it.
Everyone is different, I like to go in and get straight into it but it also helps writing out points or maybe practicing what youāre going to say. Keep your head as leveled and fair as it can be. If needed, take a walk and grab some fresh air afterwards before analyzing how the conversation went.
Wishing you the best of luck & itās all going to be okay! (-:
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Try talking to someone without āoh yeah, when something similar happened to meā¦ā or āthat reminds me of [me story]ā Or āI totally understand because Iā¦ā - Itās hard, but worth trying
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