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i've had a bad habit of asking for someone's instagram after a first hangout or meeting at a bar or whatever. and honestly that's not a route to knowing someone in a way that's personal or with any longevity, unless you want them to like you via your internet presence first, which, you shouldn't! i think you're gonna get much more out of a new friend by being intentional about reaching out and building that relationship via text or, even better, asking them to hang, then by starting the friendship parasocially online. would you rather build a friendship based on 1:1 connection or by the sort of open-call of interaction that we put out on social media? because with 1:1 connection, it sounds like you're gonna get more original and personal conversations.
Jun 6, 2024
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I get really excited to hang with a new friend because I like getting to know people and I like to talk and ask questions. I enjoy having one activity I might do solely with this friend like a yoga or Pilates class or a specific walking route. It’s even more fun when we meet because of the internet. Here’s me and my friend who I met because of Instagram.
Jan 23, 2024
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i've always been slightly worried about asking friends to catch up, meet up, or spend time together out of the blue but maybe not everyone hates me idk !! to more time with friends 🫶
Feb 13, 2024
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I love meeting people and then making an effort to become one on one friends with them. Some of my best friends I’ve made in adulthood have been chance encounters where I decided i needed to learn more about that person and consequently sought them out. These have blossomed into very fulfilling and creatively inspiring friendships. I don’t tend to work very well in friendship groups so this is the model that I have found works for me.
Nov 11, 2024
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