I cannot and will not be able to tell otherwise. My partner told me âIâm crazy about youâ after weâd met (weâd been texting for a few weeks) and I was like OH COOL HE ACTUALLY LIKES ME. I have historically been a dummy for lovebombing cause I only really respond to this, but I wish more normal people had been that direct then maybe I wouldnât have dated so many horrible people before meeting Billy. (this is also why Iâm so pro dating app, because at least you know the person at least fancies you without having the guess).
Jun 10, 2024
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He likes to say we met on Tinder because he knows it annoys me lol. Our very first meeting was on New Yearâs Eve of 2016 at a house party. He had the same name as one of our mutual friends (âSâ from here on out for anonymityâs sake) and I kept riffing with him about that and ended up hugging him when I left, my long hair got in his mouth and he still remembers that lol.
He was the drummer in my friendâs band and Iâd ask about him often; each sillygoofy funny tale made me more interested and led to a little facebook stalk session. My friend mentioned that they were going to a birthday party for one of Sâs friends. I begged if they could get me an invite and funnily enough that same day S saw us walking down the street and texted them âyou and your friend look good in red.â The invite was secured!
That night, I got all done up and went to the party and immediately got blasted on some sangria. I cornered S and talked to only him the ENTIRE party, mostly discussing a bracket my brother and I had made to determine the best disney channel original movie. He was so kind and sweet and funny and did not make a move! Which was a huge contrast compared to all the thirsty gross dudes Iâd normally encounter at parties.
For the next couple months, weâd see eachother around at coffee shops and exchange smiles and quick helloâs. One day on a beautiful early Spring afternoon I was sitting outside at a coffee shop reading Marx for homework and saw S. He sat outside nearby me and I said âok this is silly!â and told/asked him to join me.
We sat there for three hours as a rotating cast of characters came through. Weâd see friends and they join for a spell and go on their way, the funniest addition was my friend and her 12 year old brother. I had to get to class so we parted ways and I was still surprised he hadnât made any moves or even any objectifying comments, not that I wanted that, but thatâs generally the way Iâm used to men interested in me acting. I figured he had a partner, wasnât straight, or simply wasnât interested in me.
This was the golden days of Tinder so one night when I was trawling through the cityâs singles, I finally saw S on the app. This was my shot and I was not going to miss it! A simple âswipe rightâ would not do my, I used my daily free superlike and held my breath. We matched! I donât remember the first messages but it was something like âwell, finally!â and we planned the first date.
Apparently, he had a massive crush on me from our very first meeting and thought I was way out of his league so he wrongfully assumed my overt flirting as was just a platonic offering of friendship. We have been together ever since and are happily married and still more in love every day. He has gotten me through so much and I cannot imagine my life without him, love you my beautiful husband!!!
This is your sign to shoot your damn shot!!!
6d ago
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Someone from a dating app texted me last night saying "[...]I typically[...]am kind of primarily a lesbian lol, but you seem cool and fun and nice so am looking forward to meeting up and feeling out the ~vibe~."
As a bad queer, as someone who is usually interpreted as a gay man, my little nonbinary lesbian heart aches/flutters
Jun 13, 2024
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I wish I had a screenshot of his profile from back then. He had a terrible tinder profile. He had one recent cute selfie as his first pic. But most of the pics were blurry and several years old. His bio was very generic something like âHi I like video games and anime.â
I was at a point where I was playing tinder like a game. I had a suggestive bio. I meticulously picked my photos to come off a certain way. Iâd swipe right on so many people just because I was bored. And almost everyone would just send some shitty perverted pick up lines referencing my bio.
Not my boyfriend though, he super liked me and immediately started a regular conversation. We started to talk every day on tinder and eventually Snapchat until we met in real life after two weeks.
We celebrate our first date as our anniversary because weâve basically been together ever since.
4d ago
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I am by no means traditionally religious, but I fully understand how being in the presence of beautiful stained glass can feel like being with god. ALWAYS stop off at a church on the way if you think it might have good stained glass. The bluebells in the bottom right corner of this made me loose my breath for a moment.
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I used to be envious of people who had âMySpace friendsâ or âtumblr friendsâ. Now I have PI.FYI friends. Thank you capyboppy for your lovely letter and this illustration of a capybara and a mouse with fruit on our heads, it made me weirdly emotional â€ïž
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