Rec | WHY DO YOU FEEL LIKE A LOSER?

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i encourage you to examine that feeling, where you heard that message, and if you apply that standard to others. when my mental illness got to a point where i was less productive at work, it forced me to unpack my internalized ableism and belief that productivity = worth. i still struggle in my relationship with rest and work, but quitting my job at the time was the single best decision i have ever made for my mental health. i would have given anything to quit while having the financial support you have. it will probably be hard to not have a schedule and to learn how to rest again and to process the feeling of being a burden in a relationship… but it’ll give your body a chance to heal and your mind to reset and your heart to receive support from others. it’s difficult to extract ourselves from hustle culture. recommended reading: Rest Is Resistance by Tricia Hersey

@capyboppy

Jun 26, 2024

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