Nothing is foreverāone way or another, youāll quit this job someday. So why not now? Frame it as a mid-career break if that helps.
That saidāone income households are rare for a reason. Short-term itās no big deal, but talk to your partner about what youāll do if your project doesnāt become an asset. & be so, so, so careful about becoming financially dependent on your partner long term.
We believe in you. Do it for the plot!
Jun 27, 2024
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I mean your pre frontal cortex isnāt even developed and youāre trying to layout a 10 year path. If youāre really passionate about it youāll find a way. Or go corporate and fund your love that way.
Dreams donāt need to happen now, itāll be a good goal for you when youāre working alongside people whose only goal is to provide shareholder value.
Mar 26, 2024
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they loss, just a redirect. find volunteer work even if it is 1 hour a week. compartmentalize the online job searching and force activities that bring pleasure, ideally irl. Freedom isnāt exactly free but time is all we have so in a way congrats on the new wealth. Hope you find formidable fit at your next place of employ!
Apr 19, 2024
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In June of 2023 I quit my job as a news producer after two years. I had a āmini retirementā or whatever name it has now before it was trendy. I didnāt quietly quiet. I literally quit. Iāve written poems, won awards for poems, worked on my novel, abandoned my novel, come back to my novel, solo traveled, slept in, got into block printing, planted a garden, gone to concerts, tried to untangle the knot of anxiety inside of me, helped take care of my grandparents, done yoga, read books, watched movies. Now I need a job again. I want to do something Iām proud of. I want to keep this life Iāve cultivated outside of the traditional career. Iām terrified I will never be hired, that Iāve tarnished after these two years of living. Somehow doing the very things weāre on earth to do ā create, try, experience ā has hindered me. This fear is only being validated with every rejection letter in my inbox. It seems that Iām asking for too much. I donāt care that Iām young. The scope Iām looking through may be narrow but itās all that I have.
Apr 18, 2025
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From the Atlantic: āThere is no statistical record of any other period in U.S. history when people have spent more time on their own.ā
I donāt know anything about youāhow funny is that? I couldnāt even begin to guess what your life looks like. I couldnāt spot you in a crowd. If I were a friend, Iām sure I could give better advice. Perhaps suggest joining a local groupĀ Ā I know of, or a class at the gym that always puts me in a good mood. Perhaps introduce you to someone Iāve always thought youād get along with.Ā
The beautiful thing about the internet is that you can ask this question to the void and the void speaks back. Itās so much easier this way, but so much worse.Ā
Geography, family, shared interests, shared labor. Community used to be inescapable. We still depend on each other for everything, but we do it all at a distance. Iāll chat for an hour with a friend across the country, but I know nothing about the people across the street. Itās a selling point if the grocer can name the farmer who grew your food. I could have been writing this to send to a distant family member, who I want to reconnect with, or an old friendāinstead Iām writing to you, a stranger. Itās easier. Our community ties have been broken.Ā
So: what do you, an individual, do? You may find more success if you develop individual friendships tied to a placeāseveral articles about the loneliness epidemic talk about the gymāor a group that meets regularly. Apparently, the best way to beak down peoplesā walls is just to see them constantly. This is true for new friends and for deepening relationships. For those friends and acquaintances youād like to be closer to, keep inviting them to shit. Set your boundaries, but keep trying. The thing about people is that everybody is interesting and confusing and stupid and wise and mean and wonderfulābut itās safer to spill all that on the internet, where no one can spot you in a crowd. Let people know that youāre around and interested no matter what, and see what happens. It will take a long time, but itāll be worth it. Not just for you, but for them. For everyone, if we all put the effort in.Ā
Iām sorryāit shouldnāt be this way. But we have to try. Weāre all counting on each other <3
Apr 23, 2024
Whatever life you envisioned for yourself, your 20s are when you find out if itās viableāor what you really want. Money and time matter way more (in my experience), and your friends live further away. You get to do whatever you want, which is amazing and awful.
Expect to hear about peers working their dream jobs while living in inhumane conditions, discovering lifelong passions and quitting their ambitions, and re-making all the choices that seemed permanent at the time. Maybe by 35-40 you can expect consistency, but in the next twenty years your peers will go through a lot and change even more.
Just remember that only having a kid and back issues are forever. When in doubt, find a mentor or a role model. Focus on the present if you can, and journal if you can find the timeāit helps.
Leaving you w/ this pic of sandāa symbol of the passage of time which is most beautiful when observed closely.
Apr 27, 2024
This morning I brought my car to the mechanic first thing. Didnāt have anywhere to be for the rest of the day, so challenged myself to enjoy a slow walk homeācould have been 40 min, ultimately took 4 hours.
I stopped to smell my neighborsā flowers, to buy a new pencil at the art store, and to read in a park for a while (big shoutout to the Libby app and city parks). Iāve been talking to a therapist about how I wake up every morning worried about whatever I have scheduled, and tend to ruminate on failures towards the end of the day. Today I didnāt dwell on the future or the past, just lived in the present.
10/10 experience.
May 10, 2024