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SERENDIPITOUS Meet cute

I was at the bar and my friend was telling me about this girl that her friend had a crush on and the description sounded vaguely familiar so I asked them to show me her Instagram and she pulled it up and put it on the table. I scrolled through to find a good picture and said “yes I do know her she’s-…right there” and I looked up and she was running towards me and I screamed her name and we hugged and made a huge scene. Definitely not slick wingman wise but I couldn’t help it because of how much of a coincidence it was. This girl was constantly on tour up and down the east coast and never in town really so we barely saw each other but always had a good time whenever we did. It was so random and felt cosmic. I introduced her to my friends and she hung out for a bit. Someone’s far away, “unattainable” Instagram crush popping up at the table, as soon shes brought up. It was so cool, I’ll never forget it.

@burybusy

Mar 29, 2024

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would prefer honesty

takes the weight off the whole thing and I won't wonder if we are friends or if I'm leading anyone on or being presumptuous. I guess my favourite move would be if they did flirt subtly but then followed it up with a genuine hey-i-did-this-because-i-like-you. So here are all the ways the genders have tried that I liked (but did not realise at the time) for research hahaha :-) Good luck for the novel!! - Against a wall, hand up, leaning in - Constantly offering the last bite of food (a sandwich in particular that got smaller and smaller as I refused, but never fully eaten, until I took the final piece) - wrist touches and (gentle!) waist grabs - bike rides (tells you to hold tight, fixes your helmet and all that jazz) - hand over your hand when you're on the computer or doing crafts together - very active eye contact and very close to my face, whenever we were talking - lending their very nicely scented jacket, like actually perfumed, on a cold night - late night intellectual texts (for real, when I say something and they deep dive and then we are discussing orca whales for the rest of the night) - lending books and it has pencilled(!) notes of all their favourite parts, name-addressed to you - when they look you in the eye in front of the entire group and say THIS GIFT IS FOR YOU, and then don't give out gifts to anyone else, post a travel thing. - when they make eye contact as you enter a room, and then leave their friend group to spend the rest of the night with you - Chair pull - Moving you to the safer side of the road so you don't get splashed God I am such an idiot.

@thisismoy

Jun 11, 2024

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LOVER BOY

This is the photo that I stare at longingly as we talk on the phone. I miss him terribly right now. We met outside of a funny little bar (Avant-Garde in Ottawa) during a break in sets where everyone was smoking outside. I actually came to see his friend’s band but he and his friends were absolutely tearing up the dance floor. I decided to go up and talk to the cute ginger boy (lover boy, Cam) and the goofy guy from the band (Noah) and they told me about a DJ set Noah was doing the next Friday. Cam never got my number so I had to go, obviously. He finally got my instagram (make better choices, ask for their number) that night and I dmed him and asked what he was doing the next day - he was going to read on his balcony. I’d learn later that this man is a very avid reader (love). I asked to join and that was our first date! He’s the first person to ever cook for me, and he even set me up on a chair and with a baguette with olive oil and balsamic vinegar. We dated for the rest of the summer, about two months, then I went back to school in a different city and we parted ways. He thought we’d never talk again but I hit him up whenever I came back to town and even asked if he’d like to spend a couple of days cooped up when I was back on winter break. He said yes and we drank wine and watched good movies and ate grapefruits. That weekend together brought us really close. I wasn’t in Ottawa the next summer but I did spend two weeks completely alone in Kakabeka Falls between forestry contracts in Northern Ontario. Those weeks I called him most days for hours despite us not having really talked in months. Then I came back to Ottawa for an internship this September. I’ve always been really weird about relationships, so I told him I just wanted to be friends. So we were, but also we would *platonically* share the twin bed I had at the time when it was late and I didn’t want him to spend exorbitant amounts of money getting home. He actually told me he wanted to be with me in October, but I was scared and said he wasn’t what I wanted. We stayed friends. December 21st I wanted to go see my favourite local band (Baby Richman) back at Avant-Garde. They have a super psychadelic sound and one of my roommates gave me shrooms to take. I was supposed to go with my other roommate, but she cancelled last minute. Not wanting to lightly trip alone in public, I invited Cam. The night was great, but when the music ended I didn’t want to stay out. I wanted to lie in my soft bed, feel my soft cotton pyjamas, and look up at my twinkly lights. Lying on my bed with Cam, we talked for hours. I cried at how beautifully he described his family’s Christmas traditions. That night I realized just how much I want to be an integral part of his life. We were a year and a half in the making. He is wonderful. He’s funny, incredibly smart, and inspires me to improve every day. He also always stuck around, despite many efforts to push something so good away. I am so lucky to be reunited with him in July.

@persimmons

May 26, 2025

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Graduating with a b.a. in english

bc it’s what I originally wanted when I first went to college at 17 but I was scared to make writing my job and got a B.S. in Nutrition instead lol Now the goal is an eventual PhD in Victorian Literature but I’m just happy to have made it through this part at 32! Stacked is everything I read in my English courses—barely pictured are the 5 stuffed accordion folders of other reading materials under my chair haha

@thickrimmedgirl

May 16, 2024

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Showers + imaginary conversations/arguments

the only place i win the social interaction

@thickrimmedgirl

Aug 21, 2024

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Feeling confident and delusional about something at the same time

conflusional. delonfident, even

@thickrimmedgirl

Oct 1, 2024