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I think Iāve always wanted to be a woman of my word. Oftentimes, though, Iād find myself committing to things that I knew I couldnāt handle. I guess I had a sort of optimism (or foolishness) that I could do it all, and, by committing, I could do all the things I set my mind to. Fulfill every empty promise if i could just muster up the grit required.
Iāve realized recently, though, that to be of your word means also having the strength to say no. And, perhaps more importantly, the strength to mean it. How strong one must be to be of their word. Not because they always come through for people when they said they would but because they had the foresight and humility to be honest when their plate was too full or when their best wouldnāt make the cut. Being of your word is standing firm in your noās as well as your yesās. Iām young, though. Iām certain Iāll make countless promises I cannot keep. Iāll fall silent when I should speak up for myself. But Iām learning, and Iām hopeful Iāll keep doing that.
Sep 16, 2024
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My favorite quote from the book āThe Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horseā is when the boy says, āwhatās the bravest thing youāve ever said?ā And the horse says, āHelp. Asking for help, isnāt giving up, itās refusing to give up.ā
I just always have to remind myself of that. Iām not sure why Iām so hard headed and apparently, I was born that way Maybe my journey on this earth is how to ask for help because I seem so obsessed with giving it.
Another quote from the story that love that I feel is very good for our modern times is: āOne day you will look back and see that when things were at their worst, you were at your best.ā
Iām just trying to be my best.
Mar 25, 2025
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Because I canāt be any other way!!
A growth mindset is essentially the thought that we are ever learning and evolving, rejecting the notion that we have to be perfect immediately or that we canāt work towards what we want.
Example: youāre trying to learn a new skill and you keep messing up. A fixed mindset would say āI SUCK AND THIS SUCKS AND WHATāS THE POINT ANYWAY?!ā A growth mindset would sound like āIām frustrated so Iām going to take a break. I canāt do this yet, but with practice and guidance I know I can learn.ā If this sounds simple, itās because I talk about this with children a lot lol.
Itās a way that helps one LEARN. Constantly berating yourself or giving up when things get hard arenāt very conducive to learning. Being gentle and encouraging with yourself, while also determined to keep going, is magic. Being open to learning and growing helps us as we age, too! Lest you become a crotchety old manā¦
Sep 20, 2024
inspired by a convo I had today + Sabrina Carpenterās speech at a variety event last year (?)
I hope this reminder finds anyone who needs it because I know I needed to hear it today (yes I was tweaking out ok) ā I know this sounds awfully annoying when youāre in the midst of it all but I hope we find it in ourselves to genuinely fall in love with the process, whatever that means for us as individuals ā whether thatās with a craft, goal, or vision etc etc.
for me personally i am learning to appreciate the version of myself rn. to expand, the version who is still trying to figure out how showing up authentically looks like for me, feeling v awkward while doing so, but also trying to remember that i will never have her again. i saw this quote also the other day and it really moved me
Apr 18, 2025
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When I got into college, I had this thing where I would pick a class crush and a class enemy for every class I was enrolled in. It was fun and a way to ensure I was actually going to class and not skipping (to impress your crush you have to say insightful things and seem smart so you keep up with the course reading/to be a good enemy, you have to be well versed in the course reading to make a good counter argument to whatever your enemy is yapping about). Itās always been fun and now as a Ph.D. student finishing up coursework, I am proud to say that I declared what might likely be my last class crush/enemy ever.
This is all to say that recently I have been letting the crush/enemy paradigm bleed out into other aspects of my life and that Iād recommend it to others. If you wanna meet new people or make new friends, find a crush and enemy everywhere you go. Charm the crush, get into an argument with the enemy. It helps pass the time and you might fall into a friends to lovers or enemies to lovers dynamic which is always a good time.
Sep 12, 2024
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I made the decision to "downgrade" to a flip phone and I genuinely think it is the best decision I've made in a long time. It's weirdly connected me to my inner-child. Which, in retrospect, I reckon I should have expected. The camera quality sucks in the best way, but I carry my Canon camera around too in case I need to capture something more important. I've been calling my friends more because T9 texting is a drag. Haha, I've been texting like "do u wanna c a movie l8er?"
I talk to strangers more when I'm waiting in line, when I can't look something up. I've been writing questions in my journal because I can't look it up in the moment, I have to get onto the computer later in the day and satiate my ever-flighty mind. Don't get me wrong, it sucked at first, but the intrigue absolutely helped. It has just been a fun way to spend the summer I guess. Screen time is down, my boredom has breed creativity, and I feel far more present in the world.
If you've been thinking about trading your smart phone in for a dumb phone, take this as a sign. I recommend it immensely.
Jul 15, 2024
Not sure how many other Doctor Who fans are on this site but I always thought the weeping angels were so baller. They hide in plain sight posing as these angel statues, but the moment your eyes are off them they try and get ya. I thought they were so scary as a kid and have a great affinity for them now.
Oct 9, 2024