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I think I’ve always wanted to be a woman of my word. Oftentimes, though, I’d find myself committing to things that I knew I couldn’t handle. I guess I had a sort of optimism (or foolishness) that I could do it all, and, by committing, I could do all the things I set my mind to. Fulfill every empty promise if i could just muster up the grit required.
I’ve realized recently, though, that to be of your word means also having the strength to say no. And, perhaps more importantly, the strength to mean it. How strong one must be to be of their word. Not because they always come through for people when they said they would but because they had the foresight and humility to be honest when their plate was too full or when their best wouldn’t make the cut. Being of your word is standing firm in your no’s as well as your yes’s. I’m young, though. I’m certain I’ll make countless promises I cannot keep. I’ll fall silent when I should speak up for myself. But I’m learning, and I’m hopeful I’ll keep doing that.
Sep 16, 2024
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-As is natural for beings, I wish to be in a healthy, loving relationship and not alone. That is okay to acknowledge and does not make me weak.
-As is natural for beings, it is okay to desire having many, meaningful friendships and good familial relationships, even if I do not. That is okay to acknowledge and does not make me weak.
-I wish to be freed of my attachment to material things, but it is naturally hard on this material plane. That is okay to acknowledge and does not make me weak.
-I am becoming more aware of my power to manifest physical reality while becoming more aware of my physical embodiment's nothingness, and that the power is shared equally by all but usable only in proportion to realization of your physical embodiment's nothingness.
-I know my perspective on living is right, but I also know the proper course of action is to proselytize with love, not condemn with contempt.
-There is nothing that can make me better than someone else, even acquiring knowledge, wisdom, virtue despite such being the fundamental occupation of higher beings (power and wealth for lesser beings), because we are all one entity. Only in lifting others can one lift oneself.
-No beings grouped by a trait should ever be denigrated. No beings grouped by a trait should ever be celebrated. These are equal evils.
Despite all the above,
sometimes, you need
a war-time consigliere.
Now is such a time.
Let it begin.
Sep 23, 2024
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My favorite quote from the book “The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse” is when the boy says, “what’s the bravest thing you’ve ever said?” And the horse says, “Help. Asking for help, isn’t giving up, it’s refusing to give up.”
I just always have to remind myself of that. I’m not sure why I’m so hard headed and apparently, I was born that way Maybe my journey on this earth is how to ask for help because I seem so obsessed with giving it.
Another quote from the story that love that I feel is very good for our modern times is: “One day you will look back and see that when things were at their worst, you were at your best.”
I’m just trying to be my best.
Mar 25, 2025
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Because I can’t be any other way!!
A growth mindset is essentially the thought that we are ever learning and evolving, rejecting the notion that we have to be perfect immediately or that we can’t work towards what we want.
Example: you’re trying to learn a new skill and you keep messing up. A fixed mindset would say “I SUCK AND THIS SUCKS AND WHAT’S THE POINT ANYWAY?!” A growth mindset would sound like “I’m frustrated so I’m going to take a break. I can’t do this yet, but with practice and guidance I know I can learn.” If this sounds simple, it’s because I talk about this with children a lot lol.
It’s a way that helps one LEARN. Constantly berating yourself or giving up when things get hard aren’t very conducive to learning. Being gentle and encouraging with yourself, while also determined to keep going, is magic. Being open to learning and growing helps us as we age, too! Lest you become a crotchety old man…
Sep 20, 2024
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When I got into college, I had this thing where I would pick a class crush and a class enemy for every class I was enrolled in. It was fun and a way to ensure I was actually going to class and not skipping (to impress your crush you have to say insightful things and seem smart so you keep up with the course reading/to be a good enemy, you have to be well versed in the course reading to make a good counter argument to whatever your enemy is yapping about). It’s always been fun and now as a Ph.D. student finishing up coursework, I am proud to say that I declared what might likely be my last class crush/enemy ever.
This is all to say that recently I have been letting the crush/enemy paradigm bleed out into other aspects of my life and that I’d recommend it to others. If you wanna meet new people or make new friends, find a crush and enemy everywhere you go. Charm the crush, get into an argument with the enemy. It helps pass the time and you might fall into a friends to lovers or enemies to lovers dynamic which is always a good time.
Sep 12, 2024
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I made the decision to "downgrade" to a flip phone and I genuinely think it is the best decision I've made in a long time. It's weirdly connected me to my inner-child. Which, in retrospect, I reckon I should have expected. The camera quality sucks in the best way, but I carry my Canon camera around too in case I need to capture something more important. I've been calling my friends more because T9 texting is a drag. Haha, I've been texting like "do u wanna c a movie l8er?"
I talk to strangers more when I'm waiting in line, when I can't look something up. I've been writing questions in my journal because I can't look it up in the moment, I have to get onto the computer later in the day and satiate my ever-flighty mind. Don't get me wrong, it sucked at first, but the intrigue absolutely helped. It has just been a fun way to spend the summer I guess. Screen time is down, my boredom has breed creativity, and I feel far more present in the world.
If you've been thinking about trading your smart phone in for a dumb phone, take this as a sign. I recommend it immensely.
Jul 15, 2024
Not sure how many other Doctor Who fans are on this site but I always thought the weeping angels were so baller. They hide in plain sight posing as these angel statues, but the moment your eyes are off them they try and get ya. I thought they were so scary as a kid and have a great affinity for them now.
Oct 9, 2024