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i don't know if this is already common practice but i think it's worth talking about.
adding a birthday to a contact is quick and easy, and doing so automatically makes birthdays appear in your apple calendar, if the birthday calendar is toggled on.
it's a super simple way of remembering and letting people know you care about them, no matter how busy life may be.
Sep 17, 2024
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But here's the few things I'd add:
1) Find a good therapist. You may not feel like you need them now (and in some ways that's preferable) but you probably will at some point, because life, and it helps to have that support ready for you. Don't be afraid to shop around and interview people to find a good fit.
2) Get a manicure/pedicure every 4-6 months minimum. You're old enough to take care of yourself, and the sooner you start doing it the easier it gets. My dad is 70 and I just got him his first pedi for fathers day. It was like he experienced the Beatles for the first time.
3) Lie to hotels and restaurants. IDK if it's unethical but every time I stay at a hotel I say it's our anniversary or my birthday. They will usually give you a little something free or upgrade you. It costs them nothing.
4) Put a metal spoon in open bottles of champagne or sparkling wine to preserve them longer. I learned this on TikTok and its surprisingly helpful.
5) Use your calendar. I started doing so this year and it completely changed my life. I use it for work, but mostly for birthdays and people's anniversaries etc. It's such a small time investment and it feels super considerate and makes your life less stressful.
!!!~HBD~!!!
Jun 6, 2024
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For the past year or so Iâve tried to surprise as many people as I can with a birthday cake on their special day. I can safely say it is the easiest, most rewarding thing you can do to show your gratitude that someone else exists. You only have to do it once a year, but theyâll remember it.
Oct 31, 2023
manifesto forthcoming.
i hear time and time again - âiâm not a birthday person.â as a convert, iâm here to challenge that limiting belief.
not unlike new yearâs eve, getting your hopes up for a single night is futile. thus, i have the following advice:
-embrace birthday weekÂ
  month is a little much, even for me, but allow the week to be birthday-centric. this doesnât have to be sunday to sunday; it can  consist of any of the surrounding days that feel relevant to THE day
-multiple experiences
  much like new yearâs eve, hanging your hat on one night is doomed. thus, i recommend that you implement ALL (not some) of the following:
INTIMATE DINNER
+with partner, family, a couple of friends. something that feels low key and non stressful. great for a thursday or sunday night. let them know ahead of time (if they need reminding) that you would like a candle of some sort on a house dessert (is this too bossy?? NO! youâd do the same for the ones you love. next). (i also get desserts with candles the whole month, unabashedly. and do the same for loved ones.)
SOLO DAY
+plan things for yourself: solo lunch, matinee, massage. buy a fancy latte. take a cab. spare no expense; today you turn off the switch in your head that wonders if itâs worth it because it is.
FRIEND DAY
+have people over, meet at a bar, or throw a full on party. this is group time. i honestly recommend doing this one last. youâll likely have enough fun with the other two events that this will feel like a cherry on top. ask your type A friend to help plan, if you need help, and remind them again ab some sort of treat w canes. this doesnât have to be a blowout! tell everyone to bring whomever, +1s, enemies as itâs more-the-merrier vibes.
tl;dr everyone deserves to be celebrated and there are people in your life eager to help you make it happen. ask for what you want. do the same for them down the line â¤ď¸
ps my birthday is 3/17 if you need to start preparing
pps bonus tip - pic is of last yearâs birthday outfit. i also like to throw a very easy mini theme to get people thinking ahead of time (i said to wear silk, leather, or mesh. everybody looked hot)
ppps i have so much more to say ab this, lmk if you want moreÂ
Feb 3, 2024
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