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outsider left

I would disagree with this i'm very much not moderate haha. the scope of the questions on this one is too narrow, I feel like my political compass one is a better representation. both are reductive by nature tho.

@royallmonarch

Sep 19, 2024

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not taking the quiz

Sorry lol, and absolutely no shade. I can say I’m obviously generally somewhere in the bottom left quadrant (as is pretty much everyone I follow on here). But I’d like to make the point that this compass does a couple of unfortunate things: 1. Flattens what may be someone’s wide-ranging spectrum of principles/values. This is an issue with these kinds of things when surveying large populations to get an average, but in this case it’s also sticky when an individual has values that don’t comfortably conform to the binaries presented. 2. Accepts and presents the deeply-ingrained false binaries of left v. right and libertarian v. authoritarian as political fact. 3. Encourages, overtly or otherwise, people to define their political views oppositonally. Maybe I’ll get into this in a big rec, but this is the core problem with all of our systems! Variations of this can be helpful though – ones that are designed to help you figure out how you align with candidates/parties in a specific election, for example. This works a bit better in countries with multi-party systems though, so uh… Anyway, please carry on as you were!

@solomonki

Jul 31, 2024

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Tough

I wish I had a better answer but mostly wanted to say that this question’s a banger. I’m voting tough. Being able to endure for longer just seems more essential to me. In my mind, anyone can be strong, but not everyone can be tough.

@burybusy

Mar 17, 2024

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

@taterhole

Mar 16, 2025

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

@taterhole

Feb 27, 2025