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idk if there a name for this, i don’t mean a third place. i mean a spot you go to that is meaningful and ideally not very crowded or rarely frequented by others at all. somewhere to read or journal or just sit and think. sometimes if someone you know is special enough you‘ll take them there.
you have a lot of options in rural areas but i find they’re particularly important in suburbs or cities where there’s people everywhere all the time. if you live somewhere touristy they’re best if you gatekeep them!!
Sep 23, 2024
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when i lived in a city i had second, third, fourth, fifth places. i used to go a museum every week, actually good coffee shops, a pocket park nearly every day, the river when it was warm, and a local arcade to play pinball and rhythm games once a month. now i can walk to my parents’ house, the woods, and an Arby’s where i get treated like a princess. theres a pretty cool pedestrian downtown mall but it’s a drive away and i spent so much time there in middle and high school it feels like it’s no longer my third place. plus, there’s not much to do there but spend money. it sounds sad but i live a quieter life and know a lot more bird calls and native plants and get to spend a lot more time with family, especially the 102 year old grandpa.
Mar 13, 2025
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sometimes there are small towns 30 minutes to an hour out from you that are waiting to be discovered!!
just take a day trip to a town nearby and explore all it has from its local mall, cafes, bookstores, even to the parks that deserve a bit more local love! it’ll be worth the gems you find :)
Dec 13, 2024
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i'm grateful that where i live now feels like home, at the cost of not having an opportunity to return to my hometown since all my family and friends moved out. i wasn't a particularly social or nice child and i was an especially anxious teenager so i would say the thing that most comfortably reminds me of my hometown (which i think is what we're asking?) is usually an especially pretty and empty piece of nature surrounding some sort of suburban building. abandoned sheds, high school baseball fields, porches, the woods behind your house. and of course the games of my childhood: kingdom hearts 2, skyrim, mass effect 2.
Oct 23, 2024
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being traditionally cool is really quite boring and iterative, and it’s actually very cool and sexy to geek out about something you like or share bits of knowledge on a topic you’re passionate about
Aug 17, 2024
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i had it for a little over a year until i was like wow this is actually terrible! i genuinely think it has negatively impacted society by ruining people’s attention spans, having a horrific algorithm, and most of all by the most mind-numbing or outright harmful trends -
fake words that people now use IRL (“unalive”), trad wife tiktok, shein hauls, body-focused fitness vids that encourage fatphobia and unhealthy habits, shallow political/feminist theory and queer discourse, “alpha male” podcaster tiktok, encouraging overconsumption in general, trends ruining local spots or niche things… the list goes on
Aug 17, 2024
a million times cooler than the lackluster “sleek” tech color palette used today
Feb 22, 2025