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College is about the experiences and connections you seek out and the knowledge you gain. You can find ways to specialize and differentiate yourself from others, but you have to be an active participant in life instead of waiting for things to happen to you. There’s a wealth of opportunities available to you, so I would recommend trying everything that you can so you can start to get a feel for what you like to do and what matters to you. Then you can start finding your purpose.
As with the concept of gifted kid burnout, the reality is that everyone has their own individual strengths and aptitudes, but nobody is inherently more special than anyone else. The important thing is getting your foot in the door and showing up!
You may also want to seek out counseling services with your university if you feel you may be experiencing symptoms of depression or even just to have someone to talk to and help you along. Big life transitions like this can be incredibly destabilizing, so it’s understandable if you’re feeling lost and disillusioned!
Sorry for the Republican dad rant. go get ‘em champ 👨 👍
Sep 25, 2024

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Not to take a pessimistic take on this (because as debilitating as it can be, I really do love being a student) but my uni friends and I have been talking about this concept a lot recently in terms of choosing a major and then feeling stuck in that path. I think we have recently discovered that most companies/jobs don't really give a f*** what you studied because its not the knowledge you gained through your actual classes that is tangible and useful but the skills gained through college life itself. Evidence: the need for total training and learning as if one was a small child whenever entering a new job space. One may ask how helpful your tailored degree is if companies really find these in-depth training programs so vital. I will end this by saying that as a senior, this 4-year long discovery has led me to tell freshmen very explicitly that they should not view their major as a trap or as the foundation of their future, but more so as a foundation to discover what they are interested and actually grow into an adult (as said by taterhole). Additionally, I think this makes a very strong argument for why "core curriculums" at uni are so important and so necessary (and should be reformed to be more engaging, interesting, and well-rounded) and also why homework should really not be a thing. I think the European style of universities where there are two, maybe three, assignments due a semester cultivate space and time to actually explore and learn and also create a sort of cozy familiarity for a subject! The true beauty of school!
Sep 26, 2024
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siggi761 well said!
Sep 26, 2024
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It’s definitely an entry. I work in mental Health services and a bachelor’s does not move you into any positions of care.
Sep 25, 2024
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i'm in community college rn, i had a rough time in high school so i figured id do two catchup/gen ed years before finishing up my degree at a 4 year. we all know its college app season/college result season and oh my god guys i keep seeing these high schoolers shooting for 8% acceptance rate universities and not settling for anything less. like i get it, i do. but am i the only one whos seeing an uptick of kids just applying places just to say they got in ? i feel like i ask a lot of these people about what they want to do/what they're passionate about and why they're majoring in what they're majoring in and they just give me a blank stare. can we PLEASE normalize saving money and taking your time ? you have the rest of your life to work and be miserable paying taxes and pulling your weight at a 9-5. there's literally no shame in community, and I'm so sick and tired of people thinking there is. if you don't know what you want to do, you're allowed to take the time to get there. it's honestly worse to settle on a mediocre major that you don't particularly like just to get your degree faster and say you graduated on time. high school really doesn't give you the time to decide these things so once you reach adulthood it's your responsibility to allocate your time towards it. i really want to see more kids soul searching in a meaningful and responsible way. and if you know what you wanna do and you got into your 8% acceptance rate dream school, more power to you. I'm just saying that seeing a case like that is rare these days and people deserve the time to think and absorb their new responsibilities.
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Even if you study the statistically highest earning major, that doesn’t guarantee you a job. Unless you’re going for something ultra specific, most jobs just want to see that you have the guts to finish a degree, it doesn’t matter so much what it is. If you have a passion, follow it! It’ll make your time in school that much more enjoyable.
I started college majoring in materials sciences and engineering at a big ten school bc math was my best subject but I was miserableeeee. I thought I had to do the hardest degree possible to be successful in life and I come from a long line of engineers. Now, I feel like I’m following some sort of calling studying apparel at a tech school. Even though it’s not as promising statistically. We’re all gonna die someday anyway.
Also!!! I majorly recommend taking a gap year. That year of real life outside of an academic setting can really sheepdog your priorities.
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My stock college advice: Do everything and meet everyone. You’ll never have a better opportunity.
People are what matter. The education is a bonus.
But also, if college is the wrong option for you, get out. Go work in a restaurant, train to be a plumber, go to beauty school or whatever it’s called. There are other paths!
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