thank them for the growth they’ve helped foster in you
hug them, hard
dye your hair, stay in bed for 48 hours, cry on your bff’s floor, let yourself feel the grief
begin to notice the gratitude your body n soul feel for the courage it took you to listen to what you need
begin again, and again, and again
I am also going through smth like this…I feel your pain </3
Sep 26, 2024
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I absolutely love this. How raw, realistic, and exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you, I hope you're growing, and doing well.
Sep 26, 2024
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Feel them hard and strong
Feel sad when you’re sad
Feel mad when you’re mad
Make space for joy to come through
Don’t make yourself suffer, let them pass
Make lists of gratitude
Feel the sunshine
Move your body
Cuddle with a stuffie, an animal, a person
Eat nourishing food
Eat sugary fun food
Treat yourself as if you are your own child, and you are your own mother.
Be tender with yourself.
It might take time, dear, but the light always comes back.
May 25, 2024
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first of all, such a shame this had to happen in your life. i can't even get close to imagining the pain this separation might've brought you.
anyhow, the tips below might be useful for you (as they've been useful for me) :)
1. allow yourself to connect with your body while you're feeling low. the physical sensations that are contiguous to these emotions might help you identify 'em whenever they emerge.
2. allow yourself to live with such feelings/sensations while they last. letting them sit with you is easier said than done, but that's the 1st step to self soothing
3. find ways to soothe yourself while those feelings are sat within you. it's like "ok, i'm feeling (bad feeling), let me concentrate on that, let me breathe, my thoughts are prolly gonna be contaminated by it, hence why i shall not take said thoughts into account" and many other strategies that only you will be able to pull off, as you know yourself better than anyone.
4. always remind yourself that feelings, no matter how intense they might be... how ever engulfing, suffocating, enveloping they might be... are deciduous.
5. the role your friend played in your life might not be occupied as of now, and it might not be ever again... but trust the proccess. you'll grow around that shard of your life just fine.
i'll sincerely wish for your wellbeing.
:)
Jan 25, 2025
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i don't know what happened, but i'm sorry. i think you cope by grieving and mourning. that's what i did. i journaled and cried and howled and screamed and rolled on the floor. i did this for an entire year. and it still wasn't enough. so i reached out to them like 4 days ago lol and it gave me the closure i so desperately needed. please please please remember to be kind to yourself and take care of yourself and show up for yourself even when it's the hardest thing to do. spend time with loved ones. do the things that you love. rediscover your passions. focus on you. treat yourself like the absolute g you are. remember who you are outside of this. it's so easy to lose yourself in this process of grieving. i believe in you. you can get through this <3
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at least casually. don’t delete the accounts but don’t have the apps on your phone either.
rediscover your love of reading thru the magic of recognizing titles strangers are holding on the subway. become a subway reader.
don’t use sound as an escape from your thoughts/feelings/surroundings. grocery shopping without headphones is actually kind of beautiful!
pick up a new hobby or two or three. one of them should be something you’re not good at, and at least one should be no- or low-cost.
never. stop. learning. the library, the parks and rec department, and nearby museums offer great materials already but also usually have free lectures or courses.
go outside more. like, a lot more.
(took this much less literally, so apologies if it’s not what you’re looking for lol — as a narcoleptic I have no tips on how to Not Sleep since Sleep is basically my job)
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keeps it funky, keeps it fresh! a book for outside, a book for downstairs, a book for bed, a book for the subway, a book for the bathtub…..
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