“The four most beautiful words in our common language: I told you so.”
“It is the spirit of the age to believe that any fact, no matter how suspect, is superior to any imaginative exercise, no matter how true.”
“The brain that doesn't feed itself, eats itself.”
“Style is knowing who you are, what you want to say, and not giving a damn.”
— Gore Vidal
“To free us from the expectations of others, to give us back to ourselves—there lies the great, singular power of self-respect.”
— Joan Didion
“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. People know themselves much better than you do. That's why it's important to stop expecting them to be something other than who they are.”
—Maya Angelou
“Love isn't a state of perfect caring. It is an active noun like struggle. To love someone is to strive to accept that person exactly the way he or she is, right here and now.”
— Mr. Rogers
“If you don't have wrinkles, you haven't laughed enough.”
— Phyllis Diller
“I’d rather smoke crack than eat cheese from a tin.”
“You know, crack might be extreme, but spray cheese is not my kind of party.”
— Gwyneth Paltrow
Also when my therapist said resentment is a feeling of self-betrayal…
Oct 10, 2024
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“The the curious paradox, the more I accept myself the more I can change” - Carl Rogers
“You never know how strong you are, until being strong is the only choice you have" - Bob Marley
“When you get nervous, focus on service”
“Turn your shit into fertilizer“
origins unknown for those last two so plz lemme know if you do😊
Mar 7, 2024
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-As is natural for beings, I wish to be in a healthy, loving relationship and not alone. That is okay to acknowledge and does not make me weak.
-As is natural for beings, it is okay to desire having many, meaningful friendships and good familial relationships, even if I do not. That is okay to acknowledge and does not make me weak.
-I wish to be freed of my attachment to material things, but it is naturally hard on this material plane. That is okay to acknowledge and does not make me weak.
-I am becoming more aware of my power to manifest physical reality while becoming more aware of my physical embodiment's nothingness, and that the power is shared equally by all but usable only in proportion to realization of your physical embodiment's nothingness.
-I know my perspective on living is right, but I also know the proper course of action is to proselytize with love, not condemn with contempt.
-There is nothing that can make me better than someone else, even acquiring knowledge, wisdom, virtue despite such being the fundamental occupation of higher beings (power and wealth for lesser beings), because we are all one entity. Only in lifting others can one lift oneself.
-No beings grouped by a trait should ever be denigrated. No beings grouped by a trait should ever be celebrated. These are equal evils.
Despite all the above,
sometimes, you need
a war-time consigliere.
Now is such a time.
Let it begin.
Sep 23, 2024
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i think every hippie i’ve ever met has told me to practice gratitude, that my generally fleeting motivation is catalyzed in my lack of gratitude. what does that even mean?
i think, in a sudden restoration of motivation and a general decline in self-observed apathetic behavior, i found that i had been practicing gratitude and thus was relieved.
this morning i thought about a susan sontag quote.
“stay eager”
that’s all she said.
stay eager. practice paying attention. practice being slow, being focused. practice tenderness, practice heartache, practice gratitude.
practice isnt made to be perfect. the definition is “the actual application or use of an idea, belief, or method, as opposed to theories relating to it.”
the goal is never perfect. the goal is movement.
apply gratitude. move with gratitude. move like the stars above you are having sex and consequently exploding all over everything. fuck like you’re eating. eat like you never learned how, like there’s a real chicken in your sandwich and not just manmade proteins that rot your liver and shit and make this planet uninhabitable.
move
forwards, backwards- it’s not really even important. stagnance is the root of apathy. you need *inertia*. a still object will remain still.
move
wear makeup and make weird rules. i only write letters on sundays. i always put my left shoe on first. i only clip my nails when i play guitar. i only take a bath if ive done my sheets.
move
get up and stretch. get off instagram you stupid fuck. swear off of cussing. call someone you havent talked to in a long time.
move
because you have to. because you are hungry for more and feel the immense weight of the world pressuring you to eat, but, despite being famished, you have no appetite. because you miss who you used to be. because you are nostalgic for your younger self and want to bear children. because you like being alone.
practice
practice gratitude. practice being imperfect
perfectly imperfect
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much love guys take care of your self fuck fascism 🎉🎉🎉
Feb 7, 2025
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
— Anaïs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share.
I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay!
Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅
Feb 27, 2025