from gemini to gemini. figure out which notes you enjoy and try to pinpoint what notes you don’t like. you’re not already on fragrantica or the sniff app, making an account will help you immensely with this! i kind of relate it to when i eat the same thing over and over and i get sick from it. change up your smells day to day and don’t commit to huge bottles. i learned recently that there are people on etsy who will sell tiny little vials from their personal perfume collections, so maybe accumulate an array of samplers like that? when i untethered myself from the search for a signature scent, it found me! almost like how they say don't force romantic relationships lol.
Oct 12, 2024
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...or those smaller boxes of different tiny perfumes. Got a Gemini rising and I have multiple tiny bottles in different bags or around the place, so I smell different everyday. Sometimes I forget to put anything on, and that's fine as well.
It's also a fast way to go through different perfumes and figure out what combos you like.
Oct 13, 2024
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echoing a lot of what has already been said…
1. Try on a ton of perfumes. Sephora, department stores, etc have testers. Don’t spray it onto the paper, spray it on your skin and pay attention to how it fades or stays through the day.
2. Think about what you like. Both in general and on you! As you try perfumes you will start to figure out that some notes work and some don’t. I love citrus smells in my house but not on my skin, for example. Gardenia smells awful on me and now I can avoid all those perfumes! Think too about other scents you already like to wear— maybe in hair care or deodorant for example. Looking at the notes in my fave old spice deodorant helped me pick my first perfume!
3. think about the effect you want to have. Do you want the scent to show up when you walk in the room? Do you want it to be a more intimate smell? are there people In your life or workplace with sensitivity you’ll want to pay attention to? Some scents are more piercing, and some have higher sillage Which will make them more noticeable.
4. Dip into social media but don’t take it too seriously. There are tons of perfume tiktokers with huge collections and lots of advice. This can be helpful but ultimately, fragrance is so individualized and you can’t smell it on you nor do most of us have influencer budgets for enormous fragrance collections (also, it’s just not practical imo).
5. If you can afford it, consider buying a discovery set from an independent or niche perfume house. This is a good way to try a bunch of scents and support smaller businesses! if you are interested in more designer mainstream scents, there are a ton of discounted name brand perfumes at tj maxx/marshalls type places, or you can get a rollerball/travel size at sephora to see if a perfume is one you will like wearing daily.
most importantly, have fun with it!! Enjoy!!
Apr 17, 2024
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Bro you gotta go and buy like $200 worth of samples from LuckyScent and Ajavie and then meticulously determine which $450 perfume will become your signature scent. Sadly, I have one for every occasion (including dinner with friends - summer and dinner with acquaintances - summer) but perhaps you can be better than me and just pick one.
Dec 18, 2024
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liking ur rec = saying hi when we go to get our morning papers from the end of our driveways (picture me doing so tony soprano style)
Aug 12, 2024
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she can’t see my bank account so it’s ok.
Mar 21, 2025
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started writing this a few hours ago when i first saw this ask, then decided against posting but i've since changed my mind. there really is no justification for it outside of entitlement. even from a selfish lens, there's no long term benefit to its usage. it harms the world and culture in more ways than one.
a.) the water and energy usage that isn't a secret at this point. "no ethical consumption under capitalism" yadda yadda and yeah corporations are extremely culpable in the state of the environment but there really is no need for chatgpt and the planet is already too delicate at the moment.
b.) the exploitation of workers in the global south. this program is not just a computer figuring it all out, there are in fact humans behind it. it reminds me of the acceptance of fast fashion and how people have the tendency to divorce the idea of the garment worker from the garment they wear when all clothing is handmade in some way, shape or form. you need hands to man a sewing machine, you need human eyes to moderate content. also, content moderation can be a thankless job with psychological repercussions.
c.) the erosion of social skills, humanity and media literacy...this one is very personal. like, you have a cushy email job but can't write an email? you need a computer and a worker in kenya to get paid a dollar an hour to figure out a daily routine for you? i've seen the program churn out blatantly incorrect information. fine tuning a prompt or chat or whatever to give you the exact (possibly incorrect) answer you need isn't really that much less work than sharpening your research skills by cracking open a dictionary or using boolean search keys in google. again, the main issue with this kind of stuff is the entitlement to convenience, with no thought towards the repercussions within and outside of us. we are losing major recipes (critical thinking and media literacy) here, people!
i probably did an iffy job are coherently articulating my thoughts here but i am in fact, human. and that’s the beauty of it all.
Oct 1, 2024