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I had a conflict with someone earlier today. We were both wrong. Each had our share of sub-par behavior.
At first I didn't want to apologize, even though I knew I'd screwed up: I didn't want to do anything to distract them from their error.
But then I thought about it: what do I really want here? I want a relationship with this person. I don't want bad blood between us. I'd much rather have reconciliation and resolution than preserve my pride.
So I decided that I didn't care if they apologized or owned their stuff. I'd just focus on my side of it, worry about that only, and make sure my own slate was cleared.
And of course once I'd apologized then they did too. If I hadn't then who knows how long it would have been until reconciliation. So totally worth it.
It's sad that some friendships end or families splinter because neither person is willing to say sorry first.
Oct 15, 2024
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I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve apologized for things way too late, and also have gotten very late apologies. It has always ended well. Often times we need time and space to reflect on situations and get clarity.
One time apologized to a childhood friend after we had already gone to college for something I did to her in fourth grade. Turns out, she had been secretly holding it against me that entire time, but I had also been feeling bad about it the entire time. It totally transformed our relationship.
there’s a good possibility that you will continue to not have a relationship with that person, but it could provide a bit of feeling for you both to move on.
Editing to add that the person might not be ready to accept your apology, but that does not mean that you made the wrong choice.
Jul 11, 2024
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nothing is harder than realizing you‘re in the wrong and having to apologize, even if it’s immediately then or a year later
but sometimes you have to rip the bandaid off and find peace with the fact that you ultimately did the right thing at the end. whether they accept the apology or not, that’s not something you can control but at least, you admitted your wrongs
Jan 18, 2025
And forgiving. As soon as you recognize that you’re in the wrong, regardless of if you feel sorry, apologize. And as soon as a hatchet is surrendered, bury it. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Ask for mercy, ask for grace. Seventy times seven. Remember how much you’ve been forgiven. Make it right with your friend, with your enemy, with yourself, with God.
Jan 3, 2025
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this is going to hurt — A LOT — but it's getting to the point where there's no other option
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