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Oct 15, 2024
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James Baldwin's masterpiece reads like a noir film set in 1950s Paris, where the real crime isn't passion but self-deception. An American expat and his Italian lover circle each other in a dingy room, both knowing this can only end one way. Baldwin strips away every romantic illusion to reveal the raw nerves of shame, desire, and the lies we tell to survive. It's brutal, beautiful, and unforgettable and never overstays itās welcome.
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š¢Short and enthralling, with prose that is both breezy and profound and a simple yet confounding story. Itās like a snapshot of someoneās heart. I think the scenery and emotion of this book brought about a natural and gorgeous visualization of the story, which is wonderful to experience.
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Lyrical and tender, this is a short book but youāll want to read it slowly simply because every page is packed with something devastating or gorgeous...or both
āFor I amāor I wasāone of those people who pride themselves on their willpower, on their ability to make a decision and carry it through. This virtue, like most virtues, is ambiĀguity itself. People who believe that they are strong-willed and the masters of their destiny can only continue to believe this by becoming specialists in self-deception. Their deciĀsions are not really decisions at allāa real decision makes one humble, one knows that it is at the mercy of more things than can be namedābut elaborate systems of evasion, of illusion, designed to make themselves and the world appear to be what they and the world are not.ā
āFor I amāor I wasāone of those people who pride themselves on their willpower, on their ability to make a decision and carry it through. This virtue, like most virtues, is ambiĀguity itself. People who believe that they are strong-willed and the masters of their destiny can only continue to believe this by becoming specialists in self-deception. Their deciĀsions are not really decisions at allāa real decision makes one humble, one knows that it is at the mercy of more things than can be namedābut elaborate systems of evasion, of illusion, designed to make themselves and the world appear to be what they and the world are not.ā
Jul 8, 2024
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šāself-worth becomes a hostage to professional accolades and achievementā
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āFocusing on someone outside their career encourages a culture where people feel valued for who they are, not just what they doā
what are your thoughts?
i agree to a certain extent. it depends on the delivery of the question as well.
most of the time you can tell if someone is genuinely interested in who you are as a person. asking about somebodyās job can provide a lot of insight into a personās interests and general character - i think itās fine for your job to be an aspect of your identity.
i could also tangent into why capitalism may have an influence on why this question is asked so frequently..
i do find myself struggling with gauging the intentions behind this question sometimes; which often makes me less emotionally open and usually filters a potential friendship into a professional/transactional relationship immediately.
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āFocusing on someone outside their career encourages a culture where people feel valued for who they are, not just what they doā
what are your thoughts?
i agree to a certain extent. it depends on the delivery of the question as well.
most of the time you can tell if someone is genuinely interested in who you are as a person. asking about somebodyās job can provide a lot of insight into a personās interests and general character - i think itās fine for your job to be an aspect of your identity.
i could also tangent into why capitalism may have an influence on why this question is asked so frequently..
i do find myself struggling with gauging the intentions behind this question sometimes; which often makes me less emotionally open and usually filters a potential friendship into a professional/transactional relationship immediately.
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āļøbeen doing this more in my everyday life. respectfully ofc. some things iāve received/am receiving recently from simply asking for it š¤:
- free cocktail! - free ride (i donāt drive) - awesome music reccs - pretty styling pieces for a potential future shoot :) - the beginnings of a fun and crafty project - beautiful bloomers - new friends to hang with
grateful for the people who are so giving. makes me want to pay the deed forward. and i do.
- free cocktail! - free ride (i donāt drive) - awesome music reccs - pretty styling pieces for a potential future shoot :) - the beginnings of a fun and crafty project - beautiful bloomers - new friends to hang with
grateful for the people who are so giving. makes me want to pay the deed forward. and i do.
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āļøletting go of the past. letting go of unrealistic expectations. letting go of your ego. letting go of the wounds you still hold. release and create space in your heart and mind and soul to allow healing and love into ur lifeeee :)