Because I already own so little I have a pretty bare-bones minimalistic lifestyle and probably have way less stuff than the average person. I donāt really buy things very often and Iāve always purged my possessions regularly, giving away whatever i didnāt have a need for. Iām kind of against selling things Iāve already bought and used it feels greedy to me.
Iāve tried but I donāt have enough hustle in me to sell on Poshmark or Depop so I recently sent multiple pairs of Rag & Bone shoes and boots to the thrift store (has anyone else had to RECKON WITH your delusional belief that your feet were smaller than they were? I donāt even want to say what size mine are) + lots of gorgeous clothes that no longer fit me because I was convinced that I would never lose enough weight to fit into them again but now that I have Iām like damn I wish I had my clothes back.
Anyway I literally canāt think of one thing I have that I shouldnāt? Maybe the low-cut socks I bought at Costco recently before I remembered that I stopped buying these socks at Costco years ago because they SLIP like CRAZY and Iām filled with rage every time I wear them. But I will probably just stay with them until they fall apart because Iām too cheap to buy more.
Oct 23, 2024
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I have a lot of trouble getting rid of clothes and have had a habit of just buying and hoarding beautiful secondhand pieces and never wearing them. and when I do get rid of them I regret it soooo much like I did a purge within the last year because I had resigned myself to feeling like my body had permanently changed and then lost a ton of weight and am back to the size I used to be š¤¦āāļø
Here are a few items I cannot let go of:
* Comically oversized impractical Surell fox fur earmuffs I got from Poshmark. Theyāre in a more sable color but I had to use this model photo to illustrate how hilariously huge they are Iām obsessed. I only wear them when Iām doing a glamorous look though because they look insane
* square toed Rag & Bone cheetah print boots I got on TRR for like $15 when I delusionally thought my shoe size was smaller. they are just slightly too small and I wear them anyway and suffer because they are CUTEā¦
* Rag & Bone fluffy loop knit rabbit hair sweater with gold metallic strands throughout. This is a photo of someoneās from Poshmark that is in like immaculate condition but mine is rattier and the top buttons have fallen off so I always wear it open. my absolute favorite piece itās so versatile and can be dressed up or down
* cropped black Rag & Bone (can you see a patternā¦) cashmere sweater and vintage black long slitted velvet skirt I bought at my neighborhood thrift store recently!! My new favorite outfit and these are pieces to hang onto forever
Dec 17, 2024
allocating more than just a few pinterest ideas and aesthetics in order to curate a style that youāre confident in will make you stand out. whether you think thatās a good or bad thing, by āstand outā i mean people catch a glimpse of you and immediately know who you are based on how you dress. thereās nothing wrong with going with a trend if you like it, but itās so painful to see people consume for the sake of consumption. i mean thatās a concept for a whole other rec in itself, but what iām trying to get at is you donāt need to constantly use outfit inspo pics for outfit inspo. seek your surroundings, ponder your past, think about yourself as a piece of art, which you ultimately are. donāt avoid wearing the statement piece that a stranger would find weird, theyāre probably just pissy. dress the fuck up on days you donāt need to just for the hell of it.
and remember, donāt get discouraged if the first ācrazyā fit you throw on looks like shit. it takes time to make art!
and if you feel comfortable and beautiful in simpler articles, and youāre not into anything too bold or loud, still make it your look. art doesnāt have to be complex, but make each choice have purpose. why choose one blank white tee over another? is it a specific hue of white? does it compliment other features of your outfit? is it comfy as fuck? show that to people and make them know itās you. you donāt need to dress to impress, but god if you bought that shirt only because your favorite influencer promoted it, or even worse if you bought it just because it was on a sale rack, youāre disrespecting your canvas! itās like pissing on a van gogh oil paintingā it might look amazing but you canāt help but think about the fact that thereās piss on it.
that brings me to probably the most widespread concern of consumers: cost. yes, higher quality products are going to cost more. itās difficult in such a dense place like SoCal(where iām from) to find cheap ANYTHING. i split a dozen dumplings for $20 the other day with a friend and i swear i couldāve called 911 on this food-influencer-aimed āchineseā restaurant for highway robbery. food was pretty good tho canāt lie. however, that doesnāt mean that itās impossible to find incredible clothing from staple secondhand stores like Goodwill. several friends of mine have landed at their unique styles that can be associated directly to them, and their closets are mostly filled with Goodwill Bins finds. āohhhh the Bins are so dirtyyy eewwwwā yeah if you canāt dig through some used clothing for a while donāt complain about not being able to afford those $600 shitstained acne jeans. i mightāve gotten a little personal with that. lmk your thoughts on fashion and what it means to you!
you know what fuck it just wear sweatpants a sweatshirt and flip flops lifeās not that serious
Oct 1, 2024
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Lately, Iāve been trying to reconcile my love for fashion and my cynicism around overconsumption culture & its negative implications and detriments to our plant.
I made a commitment to myself to drastically decrease how much I buy, and I ask myself these questions whenever I feel the urge to buy purchase items that are not considered needs:
What void am I trying to fill? Is it a lack of purpose, a weak sense of identity? What about this item do I like and is there longevity in its qualities or is it fleeting? Is this just a short term dopamine hit? How can I be creative with what I currently have? Will I love this a year from now? How is this trend connected to our culture at large and am I just a victim to a broader marketing campaign?!
Another thing I have found helpful is to gather my favorite pieces that I currently have, and think of what specifically I like about them and why I wear certain pieces so often: Comfortable to the touch, practicality, versatility with my everyday lifestyle, unique silhouettes and texture, and neutral colors
Keeping these things in mind really help me to make more informed purchasing decisions. Some books Iām currently reading that relates to this topic are:
Deluxe by Dana Thomas
The Day the World Stops Shopping by J.B MacKinnon
Feb 13, 2024
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āLife shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.ā
ā AnaĆÆs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that Iāve safely landed at the start of my new life. Itās honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think itās important to share.
Iāve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, weād have been together for 11 years, and weāve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with peopleāto rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. Heās been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. Iāve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
Iāve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitelyābut someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial andĀ logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and itās going to be tough for a while but Iām going to be better than okay!
Now Iām opening up to you. This isnāt the only abuse Iāve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolationāand breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me š
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ā
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Feb 27, 2025