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focusing on being disliked by the right people instead of wanting to be liked by everyone

i often find myself wanting to be universally liked before i remember that actually, not only are there certain kinds of people that i don’t care about the opinions of, there are certain kinds of people who i actually *want* to dislike and resent me and i would be deeply uncomfortable being admired by. when you’re expressing a part of yourself that you’re afraid might make people dislike you, consider: what is the sort of person who would dislike me because of this? would i want to associate with that kind of person? very occasionally the answer might be yes, but often you’ll find that as soon as you concretely imagine the sort of person who is alienated by you (or unconventional trait X), you will find that it’s the sort of person you don’t want to associate with anyways! “be yourself” is not just good advice because it’s personally comforting - it’s also good advice because being yourself is a good way to filter out people from your life who aren’t ready for what you’re bringing to the table. stop thinking “do they wanna hang out with me” and start thinking “do i wanna hang out with them”

@dotmatrices

Oct 10, 2024

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Be annoying!!

I feel like I’ve spent a lot of my life ridiculously concerned with being annoying, and I still felt unlikeable; now I’ve stopped caring as much, and it’s scary, but also I’m happy and I’m not hurting anyone !!! So be annoying !!! You’ll find your people who enjoy and love you !!! Fuck the rest !!!

@hwinter451

Dec 23, 2024

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allow people not to like you.

A lot of the time people want to please everyone. This makes you fear stepping out of your comfort zone and say what you actually want to say. Instead, open yourself up to the fact that some people just WILL NOT like you whether its justified or not. Talk to people!!! say what you think and ask questions

@tomtomcsg

Apr 12, 2024

Top Recs from @venusinpain

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getting really into a mobile game for no reason

I’m making the kind of deals diplomats can only dream of on this goddamn game. They need to hire me at the UN to negotiate US-N Korea relations the way I’m bargaining between kpop and hiphop fandoms. Game is called Soundmap. Add me as a friend! 🗣️

@venusinpain

Mar 7, 2025

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Haymarket books

Not a specific book recommendation, but if you want to find more leftist book content I can’t say enough good things about them.

@venusinpain

Oct 18, 2024

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deleting tiktok

good for ur brain and u can seem cool and mysterious when someone asks if youve seen the newest trend. ive been off the stuff two years… it might have permanently damaged my brain… but im free!! 🦅

@venusinpain

Nov 21, 2024