Been re-reading a book that was given to me 14 years ago that covers ancient church disciples, one of which being simplicity. The challenge is to create a habit of giving things away, almost at random, until you learn to live unattached. It takes a while to do, but once your start it’s an addiction. I’ve had friends compliment my jacket only to find themselves becoming the new owner shortly after. I’ll often buy myself a treat on the way to work only to gift it to a coworker who mentions that forget to eat.
My only warning is this: It becomes addicting. Seeing people respond positively to being given things, especially things that might not have meant a lot to you, but now will mean a lot to them because you gifted it to them, is wonderful. You’ll find yourself wanting to give away everything all the time.
Oct 31, 2024
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when i get something new and can get rid of something i had, i think of someone in my life who might like or need it and offer it to them first. have successfully reassigned items to loved ones such as lightly used rugs, office chairs, good pants...
i may be taking a financial loss by not reselling nice items but i am always so happy to see the item in use at a later date.
Feb 21, 2024
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I'm still trying to practice what I preach here. Capitalism makes it pretty hard; they want to keep us buying things so instant pleasure and gratification is marketed and thrown at us everywhere, and makes us feel like to be accepted in society, we must always have the latest "thing." But I've started to realize nothing deeply good can come easy, or cheap for that matter. It feels way more satisfying to know I've purchased something of quality, something that means something to me, something that'll last, rather than a cheap fad that'll have to be replaced soon anyway. Not to mention knowing and caring WHERE your money is going (small businesses over large corporations, looking into what the company stands for.) There are so many times I've told myself I can't afford something I really want and am drawn to, when I've realized how much I've spent on stupid little cheap things that don't matter to me. For yourself, for others, for the planet, spend INTENTIONALLY. And if that means you end up owning less, good! And while you're at it, do a bit of Marie Condo-ing (but please, donate what you can for christ's sake.) You might experience a little withdraw with the lack of stuff and lack of spending, but I think overall you'll feel lighter, freer and more satisfied!
Jun 19, 2024
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Donate, sell, or toss things. If you haven't used it in the last 6 months? Gone. If it doesn't fit? Gone. If you don't know what it is? Gone. But it goes beyond removing things, you have to learn to then fight the urge to over-consume again. Richard Foster says this -- "Overconsumption is a "cancer eating away at our spiritual vitals." It cuts the heart right out of our compassion. It distances us from the great masses of broken bleeding humanity. It converts us into materialists. We become less able to ask moral questions. For example, just because we have the economic muscle to buy up vast amounts of the world's oil, does that give us the right to do so? When the poor farmer of India is unable to buy a gallon of gasoline to run his simple water pump because the world's demand has priced him out of the market, who is to blame?" -- Overconsumption is a plague that starts with owning too many t-shirts but leads to the oppression of the poor and disenfranchised. We would do best to fight the plague at the start and become people who are less dependent on the ownership of things. Donate, sell or toss.
Dec 31, 2024
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florinegrassenhopper riotgrrrl brendanooooo slowdazzle buck_mcgraw and indianjones — we did it. Not only did we successfully meet for drinks, but we also schemed the hostile takeover of this app from tyler tonight.
In all seriousness — weird that an app I downloaded in April would make genuinely want to drive back into Brooklyn during end of day traffic for a happy hour. Great app filled with great people.
Jul 20, 2024
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I feel like there’s a special connectivity on this app that I haven’t felt in a long time, maybe since early 2010’s tumblr. The fact that you can’t promote yourself like IG is wonderful. The fact that there isn’t mass video content like Tik Tok is great. It’s not this monetized / paid sponsorship app. People are here because they want to be a part of something with nothing to gain besides friendship. Seeing the URL -> IRL meetups warms my heart so much (waiting for an NYC or Brooklyn meetup).
Thanks for your participation on this niche little app. I smile reading all the recs and all the comments and all the asks. Hope we’ll all be here for a long time.
Jun 15, 2024
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I think a life rule for me is to surround myself with people who know more / are smarter / are cooler than me and just absorb their aura by listening / observing them. It’s made me the incredibly smart / cool person you all know and love.
I just never thought I’d feel the same way about URL friends. I’m constantly listening to the songs I see posted here, reading the articles, subbing to newsletters, and googling topics that get tossed onto the feed.
It’s nice to know you can become a more rounded person by just absorbing what your mutuals post on here. I’m going to sit on my couch, have a cocktail and digest my lovely feed. Happy Sunday!
Sep 15, 2024