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As an Only child that’s struggled with social anxiety since forever, i have always enjoyed going to shows & functions & restaurants & doing whatever by myself. Im used to it & it’s natural & comfortable. I’m consistently reminded how ironically this behavior has both filled my life with such amazing people & has helped practice how I show up in social settings & lessen anxiety. feeling grateful this sunday

@natadice

Nov 10, 2024

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@bisous

im learning how to be alone again .. i used to be a very lonely youngest child so i figured out how to run errands, attend to my hobbies, etc. alone but ever since having a really clingy group of friends and a loving girlfriend who's happy to come with me to the most boring excursions like running to get sauce from the store i have forgotten what it's like to truly enjoy just being alone. to tell the hostess "table for 1" at a restaurant and to go to a cafe and read a book while sipping on an overpriced cup of coffee. i'll try to find more comfort in doing solo activities without being scared to be reminded of how lonely it used to feel <3

Nov 15, 2024

@_bilal_

I’m the middle child (i.e. the second only child in the family lol) so definitely feel this. Got plenty friends but somehow always doing things on my own… there’s a sense of comfort there, and room for newness/exploration.

Nov 11, 2024

@natadice

bilalbikile definitely. There’s something about bringing just your own energy into new unfounded relationships and experiences that just has always ended up yielding really cool shit. as well as confirmation of success in how we show up …like oh shit maybe I am cool and not stuck on any path. like just always ends up breathing in a sense of newness & spice into life

Nov 12, 2024

@annia

i grew up with siblings who were a lot older than me so i basically had to do a lot of things alone. going on solo walks, cinema screenings, shopping trips, and concerts has made me learn more about myself and brought a sense of peace in me that is indescribable. i love my friends and family dearly but being alone and doing things on my own is a practice that i continue to keep enjoying! 💓💓

Nov 11, 2024

@natadice

annia right like I have great long term friendships and love my friends a lot but it’s just like always self fulfilling 💓 feels good man!

Nov 12, 2024

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doıng thıngs on your own

I used to be so scared of going out alone or doing anything alone. But some of my hobbies do not match with my friends so I was either gonna do them myself or not at all.
If you want to go see a movie go do that, it really gives you a big push and makes you feel so much better.
Yes, you do need your friends and close ones but you don’t have to rely on them to go do something that you’d want.
I went to a concert a couple of weeks ago alone, which was the first big thing I did alone and it really showed me that I can do it! Punch your anxiety in the face lol
Start with small stuff and make your way up! Highly recommend

@dyarkin

Aug 5, 2024

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I used to love going to things alone

Still love to, am just a mother so it’s not as often.
I think a big part of it is having open energy. Keep your head up, keep your eyes open. Look around. Make eye contact with people. Smile. You don’t have to have anything really witty to say, but the more observing you are the easier it will be to find a way in to having conversations. It also makes things more enjoyable if you don’t end up finding anyone that you really connect with. It’s fun to just be around people and watch (I say as an ESFP lol). But, it’s surprisingly easy to just join a convo or add your two cents. I’m fidgety so I like having a non alcoholic drink in hand.
I’d say, if your reason for going is to see the artist, don’t sweat about connecting. Just have as much fun as you can once they start!!
It’s really a confidence boost to go out and do things alone and still have a good time!

@mossyelfie

Jun 23, 2024

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DO WHATEVER YOU WOULD DO IF YOU WEREN'T AFRAID OF BEING ALONE

This is actually so easy and yet. You're capable of meeting all of your own needs and when you accept this (and expect this people are just automatically drawn in. If there's a movie you wanna go see, make the plan to go see it by yourself, and next time you're in a group of people (at work at a bar whateva) share with the group that you're going to see the movie on this date at this time and anyone is free to come. You'll be surprised at how many people will join on things. And any time anyone doesn't, it's nothing to you bc you were gonna go by yourself anyway. People are just really scared to invite people to things and even more scared to invite themselves. So just be the person to invite. If they come that's gorgeous if they don't that's also gorgeous you get to see the film either way (or go to the concert or museum or whatev)

@soft

Feb 15, 2025

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Getting your clothes tailored locally

honestly recommend so hard. at least for women, I know a lot of clothes I buy are almost just right. something small is off, something doesn’t fit right in 1 area of my pants or shirt
in the chicago neighborhoods ive lived & visited there’s often a local tailor & it’s not expensive and makes such a huge difference!

@natadice

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PARALLEL play with friends

The homies and I spent a Saturday this weekend simply sitting on our computers together . God is real

@natadice

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meditating

Jesus fuck. growing up a neurodivergent kid w wavering mental health, a wavering home life, in and out of therapy, etc, you always hear “have you tried meditating”
No Susan I never fucking thought of that thank you for the recommendation
Well finally at my big age, I took the leap to start practicing and Jesus fuck. Why was I avoiding this my whole life. I have been so resistant to it because it’s intimidating, it’s not instant gratification every time, and it’s … well scary! What if I mess up. What you mean sitting still for ten or so mins and not thinking.
I have always been big into dreams. I’ve wrote down my dreams for as long as I can remember, have books upon books filled, and practice lucid dreaming. It’s kind of like that but without being asleep and without any anxiety inducing scenarios
It’s improved a lot of areas in my life in the two short months I have been practicing
I’m having fun

@natadice

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