On the one hand Iāve never hated a cat and I feel like I can get along with any of them or tame any stray/shy cat that I come across with time. I love how low-maintenance they are. I tend to prefer more gregarious dog-like cats, especially if theyāre long-haired.
I love a codependent clingy petā¦ itās rarer for cats to be like that but itās a lot more common in dogs, which is why I got one after losing the best cat Iāve ever had in my life.
I love that having a dog is a LIFESTYLE and requires so much work because it forces me to structure my day around it but without the all-consuming nature of having a child? itās kind of like having a little horse with the way you need to give them exercise, enrichment, and training. I enjoy playing zookeeper I guess. And itās fun the way you can take them outside!! I used to have a cat who liked going out on a leash and harness but Bunny is not that type of girl.
Itās a lot more likely for me to not like a dog than a cat and there are so many kinds of dogs I donāt really vibe with or connect to. But at the same time the fact that I can tolerate any dogs at all (especially my own monster Benny) makes me kind of a dog person? I donāt know I canāt answer this!!!
Nov 14, 2024
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the truth of the matter is cats have always been better than dogs but moving to ny has made me dislike dogs as a whole. i still think theyre cute on an individual level and i like my friend's dogs, but not everyone needs a dog, especially since nobody wants to take responsibility for them. i feel like in other places (or at least in ct) there's a culture of shame around being an irresponsible dog owner. ive seen people get lambasted for having a poorly trained dog or for not picking up after them but it seems as though you cant do that here without being an evil bitch who hates animals. once i was sitting in the park and out of nowhere this huge dog knocked me over and started licking my face. i was totally skeeved out but the dog's owner was just like "sorry :P she's playful" like hello? what if i were crazy allergic or old as fuck? your irresponsibility could hurt someone! if you want a furry domestic terrorist, get a cat so it's your problem and not the world's.
Apr 9, 2024
i have Always been a cat person but on my 18th birthday my dad brought home a puppy (which is weird i was literally moving to college across the country the week after)
i mean iām now more amenable to dogs because i. Have one but i will forever be a cat girly
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Jan 27, 2025
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because to me if you canāt find room for both, then i just think you hate animals and thatās kinda a red flag
Mar 24, 2025
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āLife shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.ā
ā AnaĆÆs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that Iāve safely landed at the start of my new life. Itās honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think itās important to share.
Iāve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, weād have been together for 11 years, and weāve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with peopleāto rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. Heās been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. Iāve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
Iāve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitelyābut someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial andĀ logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and itās going to be tough for a while but Iām going to be better than okay!
Now Iām opening up to you. This isnāt the only abuse Iāve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolationāand breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me š
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebodyābe it a relative or one of my best friendsāwas to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too š
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ā
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Feb 27, 2025