everyone knows i love putting myself in others shoes with a touch of nuance. ties into my aversion to anger/control over my outward display of negative emotion. being a fast learner is also kind of nice.
Nov 18, 2024
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i feel really in tune with that part of myself, and i think that makes others feel comfortable around me as well :)
Nov 18, 2024
It’s always fun to learn things about yourself later than you’d think you would. I’ve always been seen as super charismatic & outgoing & extroverted but deep down that stuff killed me, drained me. But I was good at it! And so even when I’d explain that it exhausted me I’d be met with a “There’s no way, it seems natural.”
I love alone time, I love being with myself, I love introspection & self-investigations. And it turns out that there is a word for that: Introvirtuous.
After spending most of my life in leadership roles, being put at the forefront of groups + dynamics, having to accept the “dad” title in the friend group it makes sense. There’s a way for me to be introverted and still accept that when it’s necessary, I will step up to be the guy at the front. And then I’ll go home and cry. But damn it, that performance while I’m at the front??? Incredible.
Jan 6, 2025
Except for narcissism??? I don’t excessively admire myself though, I am quite critical & realistic. I just think I’m very aware of the things I’m good at + unapologetic about it. Otherwise I enjoyed this a lot, feels accurate.
May 24, 2024
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liking ur rec = saying hi when we go to get our morning papers from the end of our driveways (picture me doing so tony soprano style)
Aug 12, 2024
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she can’t see my bank account so it’s ok.
Mar 21, 2025
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started writing this a few hours ago when i first saw this ask, then decided against posting but i've since changed my mind. there really is no justification for it outside of entitlement. even from a selfish lens, there's no long term benefit to its usage. it harms the world and culture in more ways than one.
a.) the water and energy usage that isn't a secret at this point. "no ethical consumption under capitalism" yadda yadda and yeah corporations are extremely culpable in the state of the environment but there really is no need for chatgpt and the planet is already too delicate at the moment.
b.) the exploitation of workers in the global south. this program is not just a computer figuring it all out, there are in fact humans behind it. it reminds me of the acceptance of fast fashion and how people have the tendency to divorce the idea of the garment worker from the garment they wear when all clothing is handmade in some way, shape or form. you need hands to man a sewing machine, you need human eyes to moderate content. also, content moderation can be a thankless job with psychological repercussions.
c.) the erosion of social skills, humanity and media literacy...this one is very personal. like, you have a cushy email job but can't write an email? you need a computer and a worker in kenya to get paid a dollar an hour to figure out a daily routine for you? i've seen the program churn out blatantly incorrect information. fine tuning a prompt or chat or whatever to give you the exact (possibly incorrect) answer you need isn't really that much less work than sharpening your research skills by cracking open a dictionary or using boolean search keys in google. again, the main issue with this kind of stuff is the entitlement to convenience, with no thought towards the repercussions within and outside of us. we are losing major recipes (critical thinking and media literacy) here, people!
i probably did an iffy job are coherently articulating my thoughts here but i am in fact, human. and that’s the beauty of it all.
Oct 1, 2024