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grief souvenirs, such as these stickers about the BEACHSIDE dive bar WE went to after MY boyfriend’s OPEN CASKET wake

MAKING PHYSICAL THE JOY THE ONES U LOST BROUGHT YOU AS WELL AS THE JOY THOSE LEFT BEHIND CREATED AND CLUNG TO ON ONE OF THE MOST FUCKED UP DAYS IMAGINABLE; AT DADDY'S BEACH CLUB WE CRIED BUT ALSO LAUGHED + JOHN QUEUED UP MARGARTIVAVILLE THE MOMENT WE WALKED IN + THE BARTENDERS STOPPED LETTING US PAY FOR DRINKS ONCE THEY FIGURED IT ALL OUT; WE ALL WALKED ONTO THE BEACH AND INTO THE OCEAN AND THE SHOES WE'D WEAR TO THE FUNERAL THE NEXT MORNING GOT COVERED IN SAND AND SALT; RYAN FOREVER

@claudiamorales

Jan 23, 2024

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funeral program we found in the pocket of a goodwill coat

rest in piece Ira, your funeral seemed really beautiful

@siesan

Dec 16, 2024

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thrifty memorial

my mom’s headstone is a rock with her photo package taped to it. i am her only child and although i have a headstone picked out, i can’t bring myself to finish the job and pay for it. (plus i work in nonprofit — moneys tight friends!) i feel like, although it’s been a year since she passed, part of me knows placing an actual headstone there would make it feel that much more real. i try not to be hard on myself about it. mostly i find grace in the fact that she would LOVE her current setup. she was ALL about anything that was free or close to it. she was the thriftiest person i will ever know. somehow she made every space beautiful, even if we didn’t have the money to decorate it. she was the embodiment of home. and honestly, no headstone could ever do her justice. so i suppose i will bring flowers to this laminated rock for a little bit longer.

@paiton

Feb 24, 2025

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Starting over

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.” — Anaïs Nin This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share. I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice. I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see. I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and  logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay! Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible. I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom. Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me 💌

@taterhole

Mar 16, 2025

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Never changing

My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌

@taterhole

Feb 23, 2025

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Finally Quitting the job that you hate

Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately ✅💅

@taterhole

Feb 27, 2025