I think the best way to describe it is an absence of features that you would typically see in a period drama that align with the beauty standards of a given time. The ubiquity of cosmetic procedures is definitely part of it too because it has a tendency to make people look more interchangeable instead of unique, and the blatant tells of having had work done to their face would take you out of a film set in a certain era because it would be immediately noticeable. The artificiality and homogeneity negates the sense of timeless beauty đź—ż
Dec 19, 2024
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ok if this were real i would first ban like being a billionaire, puppy mills, etc but i think most people feel the same so those feel too obvious.
it is a hot take to some but i really hate plastic surgery for cosmetic purposes. tho i will say i can make an exception for ffs and restorative type surgery after an injury
so for one, cosmetic surgery is way more dangerous than media and celebs say it is. for example, 1 in 3000 people die from a BBL !! a cancer-causing type of breast implant was only banned in 2019 ! nose jobs can lead to collapses and deformities! unnecessarily changing your appearance is absolutely not worth risking any of that!
but the biggest reason i would ban cosmetic surgery is because it just fuels beauty standards. and the whole thing with ideal body standards is literally just informed by eugenics (racism + ableism) and misogyny. think about nose jobs! many nose types, like hooked or wide noses, are never chosen as the “ideal” nose, you only ever see like 3 exact noses in people who got a nose job. even when you google “aquiline nose” half of the images are plastic surgery before/afters of people who had aquiline noses “fixed”
almost all cosmetic surgery is basically done to achieve WASPy beauty standards and i think that’s really fucked up. i would never want to reinforce those ideas for myself or others by conforming to them. i think cosmetic surgery also sends a really toxic message to young people, especially teen girls. i know i always wanted a nose job growing up and i think that’s super fucked up!
if you are so so dissatisfied with your appearance that you want to permanently change it, you need therapy not surgery! i am 1000% not a “my body my choice” person when it comes to cosmetic surgery because that “choice” has not occurred in a vacuum, it’s almost always from wanting to conform to conventional beauty standards. you are not immune to norms
besides, isn’t it beautiful that people look all kinds of ways? i wish we appreciated that more
Oct 2, 2024
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i've completely lost interest in what I look like. i used to be so preoccupied by what I wore and how my face looked as a teenager that it was exhausting. i was so concerned about getting my eyeliner perfect every time. making sure my hair was the best honey blonde but that i still had tool and choking victim patches on my backpack. turned 24 and kind of going feral mode #idgaf. i don't care about looking beautiful or cool. it's about being beautiful or cool on the inside
Oct 22, 2024
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My best friend and collaborator, Jake Levy, recently said when we were making a video together “Help me Im Mod” that mod makeup doesn’t suit a stressed out face. During the making of the video I, an actress, would pensively go over my movements between takes. Jake noticed that my actress behavior visually looked uniquely bizzare while I was made up like a Mod Girl. False eyelashes,that twiggy shit, liquid eyeliner on the lid crease etc.In recent weeks since shooting that video I have wondered if this type of makeup would be a challenge to a bad mood. What if wearing mod makeup like Twiggy was an optimistic and faithful balm to remind us of kindness? Asking us to put on a happy face? Well knowing if your face suddenly turned sour you would look like an absolute fool? Could this be a cornerstone of the next wave of faith?
May 12, 2022
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“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
— Anaïs Nin
This is uncharacteristically raw and personal, even for me, and pretty heavy! I know many of you have seen me posting through it and I feel safe to talk about it openly now that I’ve safely landed at the start of my new life. It’s honestly even a little bit embarrassing but I think it’s important to share.
I’ve never publicly mentioned it on here, but I have a husband; as of Friday, we’d have been together for 11 years, and we’ve been married for 3 years as of 2/22. I realize now that I wanted to explore what I looked like outside of my relationship with him because I had lost that. This is why PI.FYI has been so meaningful to me as a space to express myself and connect with people—to rediscover my voice.
I had been living a lie this entire time, to others but worst of all to myself. He’s been verbally and emotionally abusive, physically but without touching me, to the point that every day I spent with him I was in danger. I’ve been shrinking myself and walking on eggshells to avoid making him insecure and provoking his casual put-downs and fits of rage, while hanging on for dear life to the threads of good I could see.
I’ve wanted so badly to leave, more than anything, but I felt like there was no way out and that this was just something I would need to endure indefinitely—but someone who is so very dear to me helped me see that I have wings to fly, not by acting as my savior but by reminding me of my own power. The emotional safety they built and the gentle care they showed me made me feel like I could open up to them. With their encouragement I was brave enough to tell the truth to my friends, my family, my boss, and they have received me with warm, loving and open arms and rallied to support and protect me. The financial and logistical aspects were the most intimidating to me and it’s going to be tough for a while but I’m going to be better than okay!
Now I’m opening up to you. This isn’t the only abuse I’ve suffered in my life, and my old therapist told me she believed it was my mission to share my strength and light with others to inspire them and show them that change is possible.
I hope that by sharing this, I can reach even just one person who is going through something similar and show that they are not alone, and they are not weak. People with certain backgrounds may be more vulnerable to abuse, but it can happen to anyone. It thrives in darkness, shame, and isolation—and breaking that silence is the first step toward freedom.
Leaving is the scariest thing I have ever done but I have so many angels around me, and I am endlessly grateful. Thank you for being here with me đź’Ś
Mar 16, 2025
My dad teases me about how when I was a little kid, my favorite thing to do when I was on the landline phone with somebody—be it a relative or one of my best friends—was to breathlessly describe the things that were in my bedroom so that they could have a mental picture of everything I loved and chose to surround myself with, and where I sat at that moment in time. Perfectly Imperfect reminds me of that so thanks for always listening and for sharing with me too 💌
Feb 23, 2025
Schedule sent my resignation email for the morning, effective immediately âś…đź’…
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