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As a Trans, I believe in Ariel Pink's gender dysphoria. This song technically came out right at the end of 2023. I heard it while on a run early in the morning in Setagaya City, Tokyo. In the track, Pink sings, "When I was born, something went wrong. They told me I was lucky-- I came this close to being a girl. But IĀ wantĀ to be a girl." I absolutely believe his dysphoric yearnings, and detect no sign of post-woke edgelordism. I think it's probably very common, yet hardly documented, when men feel like they want to be a girl, ultimately deciding to remain with their birth gender. In fact, I think this sentiment is rather trans-affirming. As one male friend of mine said of his COVID-era gender experience: "I couldn't decide if IĀ wantedĀ 'Her', or wanted toĀ be 'Her.'" It's a brave stance to portray in a song, one that edges on Macklemore's "When I was in the 3rd grade, I thought that I was gay", but with all the heart and none of the corny virtue signaling. AndĀ it's wayyyy too catchy.Ā
Dec 30, 2024
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Historically, I have been too insecure to be a girl. That pressure of prettiness, of being delicate, of being desirable. I refused to engage. But this year something has shifted. I love cardigans, I want to talk about how I do my hair, I learned how to do make-up. Even though I'm not a model, I adore making myself feel pretty and sexy. I'm falling in love with the culture of feminism, and reclaiming mother earth as a mother. Girlhood is something so insanely precious and now, despite it being so hard, I am so unbelievably grateful I get to experience it. Want to merge my soul with every woman on the planet and scream OH HOW I LOVE BEING A WOMAN!
Jan 17, 2025
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Prescriptive gender is a prison. Rather than gender being a form of self-expression, gender is treated as a pass/fail test for how well you can conform to cultural expectations.
Since I was young, I remember feeling a great deal of pressure to conform to these expectations around what āmenā are meant to be. You like sports, cars, womanizing, aggression, and not having feelings. I felt so distant from this ideal. I was sensitive and shy, and I preferred spending my time being creative in some way
For a long time, I felt like I was failing at ābeing a man.ā In many ways I was! Because I didnāt need toĀ bea man. All I needed to be was myself.
Itās taken me a long time to separate myself from prescriptive gender, sharpening in on which aspects of masculine energy I identify with and which I donāt. Iām not done yet. Maybe I will never fully be. The self continues to evolve over time, and I suspect aspects of my gender will too.
Mar 15, 2025
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thank you for being vulnerable. but yeah, as a cis woman, boyhood always made me wistful in a way that i couldnāt really place. i am a woman and am comfy with that. personally, girlhood and womanhood are an important part of my artistic vision and practice as that experience has its own lessons and experiences that i wouldnāt trade for the world. however, i think the (what seemed to me when i was little) lack of societal pressure from the helicopter of culture for boys was something i was for sure envious of. as i grew up, i realized men and boys have plenty of their own societal pressures to reject or succumb to. i have two younger brothers and the novelty of boyhood sort of wore off for me as i watch them grow up. but thereās still a piece of young me that longs for the potential of earnestness in young male friendships and adventure. i think it would also be cool to walk around at night with headphones on in a lot of places.
Jun 28, 2024
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I watched the sunrise every morning this past week in Mexico. When I looked to my left and right, everyone was taking photos of it. Iām very anti āPut your phone away and enjoy the showā vibes, I think thatās pretentious and naive. BUT: when itās something as simple and common as a sunrise, the effect actually IS better if you just let it all in IRL. Because you probably will never look at that photo again. If you can google image search something, why would you need an image of it?
Nov 21, 2023
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Eat a fried egg with a sliced up banana in the same biteā¦ pure illegal pleasure
Nov 4, 2023
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I think this song gets a bad rap. Sure, it was overplayed, and probably got way bigger than it should of. But that style of indie pop has such potential to be clean, highly danceable, catchy bliss. Taking notes from Neon Trees for next Frost projectā¦
Nov 17, 2023