i don't want kids, never really have, and i don't interact with them very often in my life. however, when i go to the coffee shop or the park or the farmers market, whatever, and i watch a parent who looks at their child with unconditional adoration and answers all their endless "why" questions and just does small things to care for them without thinking about it is delightful. as someone who no longer talks to one of their parents, it gives me some hope to see people who seem to be trying their hardest and enjoying it.
dancing, singing, laughing, engaging in any conversation that goes beyond ordering them around⦠that kind of responsiveness and mutual enjoyment gives me hope for the world
And by that I mean whole humans with their own views, preferences, ideas, beauty, personality. Even babies come out of the womb with their own unique energy, it's miraculous! I love getting to know my children. I love spending time with them. I miss them even when they're just sleeping upstairs. Of course I'm their parent and need to instill boundaries and what not, but I do think the way I inherently view them makes it easy for me to do so in a respectful and empathetic manner. What a gift it is to witness the world through their eyes. We really are all just wanting to be seen, loved, and respected. I love being a parent. I love working with kids. It really is an honor, for real.
this idea of "you don't owe anyone anything" came about through the social media therapists that try to diagnose complete strangers with a multitude of issues and complexes. all it has done has made selfish people more selfish and divided us as a community. you do not owe everyone everything, but if you consider yourself part of a community, a society, you do owe everyone something. at a base level you owe people kindness, respect (as long as they haven't lost the right to it), and basic human decency. you owe your loved ones even more. stop being selfish and rude in the name of treating your so-called "people pleasing."